band members are plotting to remove one of us... suggestions sought

[Beedster]

50 minutes ago, Crusoe said:

I could have sworn that I watched this series on Netflix.

 

Traitors was on ITV 👍

 

All joking aside, if it was me I'd pick up the phone and tell B exactly what's going on, I'd then pick up the phone and tell A what I've just done. I;d then resign from the band, go to the pub and have a pint. The only way to change the membership of anything but a fully pro band is to resign from it (or allow someone else to do the same, which can be done sensitively if things have got to that point which they sometimes do). Sacking someone from an amateur band is bollocks, especially if done in an underhand way

[Al Krow]

11 minutes ago, Beedster said:

Sacking someone from an amateur band is bollocks, especially if done in an underhand way

 

Tbf bands, including amateur ones, sack band members all the time, right? Sometimes a band member just doesn't click, isn't cutting it or prepared to put in as much as other band mates to grow the project etc. There's a myriad of reasons.

 

But the point about treating people how you would want to be treated is absolutely the right one: pretty sure that A would hate the rest of the band treating him the way he's treating B?

[Beedster]

17 minutes ago, Al Krow said:

Sometimes a band member just doesn't click, isn't cutting it or prepared to put in as much as other band mates to grow the project etc. There's a myriad of reasons.

Most of which, among decent people, are the cue for a grown-up conversation and an amicable - or at least civil - parting of the ways, not a sacking. Perhaps it's semantics?

[Al Krow]

8 minutes ago, Beedster said:

Most of which, among decent people, are the cue for a grown-up conversation and an amicable - or at least civil - parting of the ways, not a sacking. Perhaps it's semantics?

 

Yeah probably semantics? If someone's asked to leave a band against his or her wishes, by their bandmates that's a "sacking" in my books, even if it's done in a civil manner.

 

But, as you say, it really should start with a grown-up chat if at all possible.

[NancyJohnson]

I'd find a D,E and F and start a new band with them.  Maybe get a horn section in with G, H and I and find a couple of backing singers (J and K).

 

While you're at it, decimalise the music scale and create two new notes, H and I.

 

Sorted.

[Beedster]

7 minutes ago, Al Krow said:

 

Yeah probably semantics? If someone's asked to leave a band against his or her wishes, by their bandmates that's a "sacking" in my books, even if it's done in a civil manner.

 

But, as you say, it really should start with a grown-up chat if at all possible.

 

Agreed, I've been in a lot of bands, and have fallen out with a lot of people in them - some of who I'm still great friends with and with who we still occasionally have a damn good laugh about it all, a couple of others I never spoke to again - and as the result have left a lot of bands over the years and also seen many others leave. But I've never been sacked and never sacked anyone, just seems an odd thing to do in a band....