Community Fundraiser for our very own Lee650

[Hacksawbob]

Done.

[silverfoxnik]

On 13/06/2025 at 10:40, lee650 said:

Ive only just became aware of this (and spent 30 mins sobbing afterward) a few members im close too will know that after 22 years of marriage my wife asked for a divorce.

 

At the risk of oversharing. For many years ive struggled with (for a long time undiagnosed) carpal tunnel in both wrists, which at times has hampered my playing. This is on the mend, but among other things has taken a toll.

 

Im devastated, but ive done a lot of thinking and looking back, it cant go on

 

Ive been harming myself mentally, and suppressed anger and frustration and sadness until it warped me into something im not, and caused her to fall out of love with me

ive numbed the pain with Alcohol which has affected my physical health.

 

She knew what was happening to me, but dealt with it by keeping busy with other things and remained focused on creating a life for herself that didnt include me, in time we were more roommates than a husband and wife. So sad, we had a beautiful relationship, and it withered and died and we both let it happen! heartbreaking, truly heartbreaking

 

Ill always love her,she was my best friend, soulmate and the love of my life. Right now im still full of anger and resentment and need to try and let it all go and forgive, because ive tortured myself and her for years 

 

If this looks at all familiar i beg you COMMUNICATE, share your feelings and find the person you love. Im not courting sympathy or even attention, but please hug your partner and love them fiercely and with all of your heart.

 

Ive been a nember of this forum since 2007 and it has been part of my everyday life in all that time. Ive made friends for life and brothers id never had, and many many times been a small light in my darkness. I cant thank you all enough for this, im very moved and grateful to have so many wonderful people in my lif

 

Im going to move out and get a flat with the shirt on my back and a couple of basses, at 51 my life parallels when i left Newcastle at 19 

 

Im on the cusp of a new start

My focus will be on healing myself phyisically and mentally, i plan to throw myself into the thing thats always defined me , Music!!

 

 

Time to forgive and heal

  

Searingly honest and reflective words @lee650 - food for thought for all of us, and thanks for sharing... 

 

Music has always been the help and comfort that got me through the tough times, too. 

 

Wishing you the best of luck with everything ( now you're 19 again)! 🙏😊

 

Edited Sunday at 10:47 by silverfoxnik

[stewblack]

My life underwent a similar upheaval a few years back. She bought me out of the house so I had a few grand to splurge in the Basschat market place and ever since I have been living the life of an itinerant musician. 

I'm pretty much broke by most people's standards but I wouldn't go back for any money.

Hang in there mate, life can surprise you in a good way too

[AndyTravis]

On 13/06/2025 at 22:51, AndyTravis said:

https://gofund.me/d05da7af
 

just in case anyone missed the link x

Now at an amazing £902

 

well done and many thanks to all x

[Beedster]

On 13/06/2025 at 10:40, lee650 said:

Ive only just became aware of this (and spent 30 mins sobbing afterward) a few members im close too will know that after 22 years of marriage my wife asked for a divorce.

 

At the risk of oversharing. For many years ive struggled with (for a long time undiagnosed) carpal tunnel in both wrists, which at times has hampered my playing. This is on the mend, but among other things has taken a toll.

 

Im devastated, but ive done a lot of thinking and looking back, it cant go on

 

Ive been harming myself mentally, and suppressed anger and frustration and sadness until it warped me into something im not, and caused her to fall out of love with me

ive numbed the pain with Alcohol which has affected my physical health.

 

She knew what was happening to me, but dealt with it by keeping busy with other things and remained focused on creating a life for herself that didnt include me, in time we were more roommates than a husband and wife. So sad, we had a beautiful relationship, and it withered and died and we both let it happen! heartbreaking, truly heartbreaking

 

Ill always love her,she was my best friend, soulmate and the love of my life. Right now im still full of anger and resentment and need to try and let it all go and forgive, because ive tortured myself and her for years 

 

If this looks at all familiar i beg you COMMUNICATE, share your feelings and find the person you love. Im not courting sympathy or even attention, but please hug your partner and love them fiercely and with all of your heart.

 

Ive been a nember of this forum since 2007 and it has been part of my everyday life in all that time. Ive made friends for life and brothers id never had, and many many times been a small light in my darkness. I cant thank you all enough for this, im very moved and grateful to have so many wonderful people in my lif

 

Im going to move out and get a flat with the shirt on my back and a couple of basses, at 51 my life parallels when i left Newcastle at 19 

 

Im on the cusp of a new start

My focus will be on healing myself phyisically and mentally, i plan to throw myself into the thing thats always defined me , Music!!

 

 

Time to forgive and heal

  

 

Brave post @lee650, all the best mate, life throws some shit around and I'm sorry to hear it's hit you, but at the very least you've got a bunch of bassists onside should you need them 👍

[Geek99]

18 minutes ago, Beedster said:

 

Brave post @lee650, all the best mate, life throws some shit around and I'm sorry to hear it's hit you, but at the very least you've got a bunch of bassists onside should you need them 👍

Yes lucky it’s not a bunch of guitarists. They’d be throwing shit at each other and trying to do “the adding thing”

Edited 18 hours ago by Geek99

[Hacksawbob]

Shit makes great compost for new stuff to grow, hang in there buddy!

[snorkie635]

Best wishes to you Lee. Time's the great healer and at 51, you've got lots of dreams still to chase.

[miles'tone]

Always happy to help a bass brother get back on his feet...

All the best @lee650 onwards and upwards mate 👊

 

[Burns-bass]

14 hours ago, Beedster said:

 

Brave post @lee650, all the best mate, life throws some shit around and I'm sorry to hear it's hit you, but at the very least you've got a bunch of bassists onside should you need them 👍

I think these words can help us all as we navigate relationships. Basschat is as much a social outlet for me as the pub was (I’ve sort of given up the social drinking now as I didn’t enjoy it). 
 

Best of luck getting back on your feet Lee.

 

One of my best friends is going though this and a few of us are helping him any way we can.

 

I’m a bit strapped for cash but if i can help with equipment let me know. I’ve got all manner of leads, tuners, few pedals and things I’d be happy to help you out with.

 

 

[AndyTravis]

3 hours ago, Burns-bass said:

I think these words can help us all as we navigate relationships. Basschat is as much a social outlet for me as the pub was (I’ve sort of given up the social drinking now as I didn’t enjoy it). 
 

Best of luck getting back on your feet Lee.

 

One of my best friends is going though this and a few of us are helping him any way we can.

 

I’m a bit strapped for cash but if i can help with equipment let me know. I’ve got all manner of leads, tuners, few pedals and things I’d be happy to help you out with.

 

 

tell you what @Burns-bass - I’ll Chuck a tenner in for you x

[AndyTravis]

For @Burns-bass