I play in a club band where the material is nearly all 60s/70s classics. Not much for a bass player to chew on, but regular work.
Recently we have been playing everything a shade too fast. The effect is cumulative, so that by the second set some songs are ridiculously speedy (ever heard the Ramones doing Spirit in the Sky?)...
i have remarked on this in rehearsal, and last night after the third song I had a word with the drummer to rein it back a bit. At the end of the evening he confronted me, clearly very angry, and told me I had wrecked the show for him and that this should never be discussed at a gig. The tempos had improved but he managed to miss some cues, etc, so my comment had some effect, even if his confidence was shot.
So how do I approach this at the next rehearsal? How do you work with a drummer with that attitude, or is he being reasonable...?