How many of us are in this position?

[Geek99]

2 hours ago, binky_bass said:

Mine doesn't care too much either... the occasional eye roll, but generally I only buy second hand and at a price I know I won't loose money on if/when I sell. I'd rather have a collection of things I can enjoy (and sell if need be) than a bunch of cash in the bank that will gain bugger all interest and be no fun! 

You’re right - but I think it’s the willingness to sacrifice and offload things that’s my win here in winterfell. Partner knows that I recently sold something that I’ve wanted since I was 15 when we had an unexpected financial dry period a while back (two actually, thinking about it) so she knows I only buy used, at a good price, and that I’ll liquidate anything immediately to feed the kids. Plus im careful what I buy anyway 

[Geek99]

1 hour ago, pst62 said:

My next purchase, if it happens, is going to be sent to my workplace. It will be going home under the "Eddie has lent me it, doesn't like it, said he'll let me know when he wants it back." line.

I'll get the "I know the game you're playing look and eye roll combination" I'll say "What's that all about?" She'll roll the eyes again and say something along the lines of "I'm sure you think I was born yesterday!"

 

 

Pity, you could point out that you’d then have an eternally-resetting gear acquisition counter 👍
think Benjamin button 

[Geek99]

3 hours ago, LowB_FTW said:

Nope, me and The Wife have come to an agreement, I buy a bass for me, I buy a LEGO set for her.

 

Mark

I notice that there is some similar verb usage going on here. I highlighted it for you 

[LowB_FTW]

4 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

I notice that there is some similar verb usage going on here. I highlighted it for you 

Yep, a bass purchase for me (by me) has to be something I really want these days, because I need to factor in the cost of the LEGO set too.

 

Mark

[tauzero]

I sometimes ask about things, sometimes not. As the most recent one was a swap for a bass that's been sitting in a wardrobe for about 15 years, I could make a good case for it.

 

However, I operate on the general principle that it is easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

[JazzyJ]

Thankfully, I've been divorced 40yrs now, so my living room now resembles a recording studio. 🙄

[police squad]

we support each other. We are a team

I'm lucky in that my wife adores me and also is a musician

she has 3 pianos, two acoustic guitars, 2 Ibanez 6 stringers, 2 P basses, a bass collection thing

me I have about 30 assorted guitars and we have rooms to put them all in

 

I fancied a Rik recently, for the Jam tribute, she said get it, so I did

 

we don't hide anything from each other, as we've discovered again recently

 

Life is short  (Bro-in law RIP 56 years old and dog walking friend, 63 just the other week)

 

Be kind to each other

[Rodders]

My wife will whinge regardless but when I do ask she says buy it, I do have 10 in the house currently, though I did have to appease her by changing the storage solution from a Hercules Rack to tiered stands.

[cetera]

12 hours ago, neepheid said:

 

Oh aye, she's observant too - some may know that I recently took in a second Thunderbird (different model though) and she was like "don't you have one like that already?"  I started to explain the differences, her eyes glazed over and that was the end of that conversation

 

You can imagine that same conversation in my house every time a new Spector arrives! 🤣

 

I've built up my 'goodwill' though by selling my Wal 18 months ago and using the proceeds to pay for an amazing 2 week all expenses paid trip to USA for My Wife, Son & I (Vegas, Grand Canyon, Mustang Convertible drive to San Francisco, Santa Cruz, Monterrey via Yosemite etc) last year

 

[NancyJohnson]

My wife has recently moved from 'Buy what you want/need' to a strict 'Sell one before you buy something else AND always trade up'.  It's not really about the delivery, it's about seeding the suggestion well in advance (much like our upcoming American style fridge-freezee purchase).

 

When @cetera sorted out the recent Spector Euro-X build, I was able to spin some kind of backstory about it being a test build and being offered at a healthy discount.  If she knew the actual price, I fear I may have been wearing my ballbag as a hat.

 

 

[Franticsmurf]

Being single, I don't get this from the wife/partner/other. However, I get looks and comments from the band when I turn up with something they haven't seen before and since I like to rotate through the bass collection for rehearsals and some of my fellow bandmates have senior moments, I will often get the 'another bass?' response. 

[stewblack]

5 minutes ago, Franticsmurf said:

Being single, I don't get this from the wife/partner/other. However, I get looks and comments from the band when I turn up with something they haven't seen before and since I like to rotate through the bass collection for rehearsals and some of my fellow bandmates have senior moments, I will often get the 'another bass?' response. 

Yep this is my situation. I alternate gear. Don't buy any more because my money has gone but I have enough to swap stuff around.

[chris_b]

28 minutes ago, NancyJohnson said:

. . . . AND always trade up'. . . . .

 

Wise words.

 

Always buy stuff that is better than what it replaces.

[neepheid]

15 minutes ago, chris_b said:

 

Wise words.

 

Always buy stuff that is better than what it replaces.

 

 

"Better" is such a nebulous term.  I'm happy with "different" - as in whatever coming in brings something new to the table.  Then my experience will be enriched - even if it doesn't work out, I will have a better understanding of what doesn't work for me.

 

[Franticsmurf]

3 hours ago, stewblack said:

Yep this is my situation. I alternate gear. Don't buy any more because my money has gone but I have enough to swap stuff around.

I find that 'resting' an instrument or pedal, that is putting it completely away out of sight for a couple of months, makes returning to it feel similar to acquiring a new one - well, enough to partially satisfy my GAS. Last year I rested my Sterling 34HH, mainly because it needed some TLC on the electrics and a general set-up. When I got it back a couple of months ago, I couldn't put it down. Currently I'm resting my P Bass (which was my main instrument last year) and my B6 pedal board (the main FX unit last year). Sadly, my talent appears to be permanently resting. 🤣

[Terry M.]

I buy basses I know I don't need and the associated guilt makes me real secretive about it when in actual fact the wife knows what I'm like and is nowhere near as bothered about it as I think she is. It helps that she loves music and is also a classically trained mandolin player. 

[Reggaebass]

Miss Reggae helps me choose them, I showed her a nice 66 precision the other day and she said, not another sunshineburst colour 😁

[BlueMoon]

Colour is a recurring question in any new acquisition (purchase or trade). If my wife likes it then it’s a green light for me on all other things. Shallow……I hear you say!
 

My wife thinks I’m colour-blind.

[Misdee]

If your asking seriously I'd say if you can't easily afford it, don't buy it. If you're in a long-term partnership you shouldn't want to disregard or undermine the other person. Where's the joy in getting a new bass when your loved one is left sucking lemons?

 

If you are going to get a new bass despite your other half being furious at the prospect then at least get her something too as a present . Maybe cleaning equipment, some deodorant  or a weight loss DVD. Always goes down well.

Edited 9 hours ago by Misdee

[LowB_FTW]

12 minutes ago, Misdee said:

If you are going to get a new bass despite your other half being furious at the prospect then at least get her something too as a present . Maybe cleaning equipment, some deodorant  or a weight loss DVD. Always goes down well.

 

Like some LEGO

 

On 01/07/2025 at 20:19, LowB_FTW said:

Nope, me and The Wife have come to an agreement, I buy a bass for me, I buy a LEGO set for her.

 

 

Mark