snorkie635 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 For the sake of argument, let's say you are looking to join/form a band. Before jumping in and heading off to audition/recruit, what is your biggest failing/weakness as a player or band member? Time for honest reflection here - what would you dislike about yourself? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 A long-standing weakness that I must try to overcome is my excessive modesty, without which I'd be perfect. 2 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mykesbass Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 I think I may be a little bit domineering. Don't mean to be, but it's just the way my enthusiasm can come over. Think I lost what could have been a fabulous gig due to this. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snorkie635 Posted September 1, 2023 Author Share Posted September 1, 2023 I'll kick-off by saying that I don't actually like live music - playing or attending concerts (I know, I know). This means I'll do anything to avoid finding gigs. It drives the others nuts, but I've been like that for over fifty years now. Rehearsals, recording are fine. No nerves at gigs, just don't enjoy them. 🤔 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mykesbass Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 3 minutes ago, snorkie635 said: I'll kick-off . 🤔 I think one of your imperfections is timing 😆 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz196 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 I want to be in a band to make music, I don’t want to be booking things, sorting things out, doing this & that, just want to play & holler. This probably would come across as lazy and a lazy band member to me would set off alarm bells but in my defence I’m never late for gigs or rehearsals, always prepared on the material, gear & transport always works and am good with communication. But I seem lazy because I don’t want to do anything other than play & sing. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean-Luc Pickguard Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 My bass has to be the loudest thing in the room 2 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BassAdder60 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 I like my bass to be felt and heard and I don’t like standing still at the back. Our singer is always moving around a lot and we often bump into each other but she is a curvy hot chick so no complaints from me lol 😂 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigRedX Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 I'm a very average bass player who doesn't drive or own a car (I have passed my test and have a clean driving licence, but I'm a crap driver and IMO a menace to other road users so I don't drive), and very occasionally because I'm self employed work has to take preference over music. However I'd like to think that as a band member, I'm enthusiastic and have plenty of experience of gigging and recording, a decent composer and arranger, a good graphic designer with plenty of contacts for getting things printed cheaply/for free, and have my own good quality recording setup and rehearsal space (for bands without acoustic drums), means that for the last 45+ years of playing in bands years my short-comings have been more than out-weighed by the positives. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Franticsmurf Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 It's a toss up between struggling to keep it business-like when a band member has done something/not done something (an OTT guitar solo at an important gig or not learnt a song properly after several rehearsals) and maintaining enthusiasm with a band/band members who are not as outwardly keen as me. The former can be read on my face during the transgression (there's a cringeworthy video of me trying to attract the attention of the guitard who is into his 5th minute of solo at the end of Purple Rain - TBF the video also shows the singer and drummer trying to make eye contact with him). The latter tends to come across in my own loss of enthusiasm. I am aware and can control the latter just by stopping to think and re-assess. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snorkie635 Posted September 1, 2023 Author Share Posted September 1, 2023 1 hour ago, BigRedX said: I'm a very average bass player who doesn't drive or own a car (I have passed my test and have a clean driving licence, but I'm a crap driver and IMO a menace to other road users so I don't drive), and very occasionally because I'm self employed work has to take preference over music. However I'd like to think that as a band member, I'm enthusiastic and have plenty of experience of gigging and recording, a decent composer and arranger, a good graphic designer with plenty of contacts for getting things printed cheaply/for free, and have my own good quality recording setup and rehearsal space (for bands without acoustic drums), means that for the last 45+ years of playing in bands years my short-comings have been more than out-weighed by the positives. 45 years ago, with that lot, I'd have married you. 😂 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waddo Soqable Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 5 minutes ago, snorkie635 said: 45 years ago, with that lot, I'd have married you. 😂 You're just "easy" though Snorks.... 😉 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snorkie635 Posted September 1, 2023 Author Share Posted September 1, 2023 1 minute ago, Waddo Soqable said: You're just "easy" though Snorks.... 😉 You promised you wouldn't tell (and after I'd bought you a smoked sausage supper as well!) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waddo Soqable Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 1 minute ago, snorkie635 said: You promised you wouldn't tell (and after I'd bought you a smoked sausage supper as well!) Mmm.. smoked sausage, I'm going to have go out in search of some now you know.... 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Browning Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 12 minutes ago, Waddo Soqable said: Mmm.. smoked sausage, I'm going to have go out in search of some now you know.... I understand that if you stand on Portsmouth Guildhall steps and rattle some keys, it will find you. 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueMoon Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 I’m a closet perfectionist and this trait “comes out to play” in many situations and also in bands. Some guys have an understandable “80% will do attitude”. I have struggled in the past with that and need to use all my coping skills to just let some things go and enjoy what - for me - is a hobby! Still working on taming it - as a perfectionist always tries to. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul S Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 1 hour ago, BlueMoon said: I’m a closet perfectionist and this trait “comes out to play” in many situations and also in bands. Some guys have an understandable “80% will do attitude”. I have struggled in the past with that and need to use all my coping skills to just let some things go and enjoy what - for me - is a hobby! Still working on taming it - as a perfectionist always tries to. Me too! I have this constant internal conflict of being a perfectionist but not being especially good. This leads to my being hypercritical about my own performance/abilities but, unfortunately, it can sneak into my expectations of band mates, too. And not just playing but commitment to rehearsals etc. I can be a Royal pain in the backside, sometimes. This is one of the things I love about my current band, though - we high the high spots most of the time and are getting better. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storky Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 You didn’t ask for “buts” or mitigation, so I’ll just say I can be too critical 😞 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JapanAxe Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 On stage I tend to just stand there with my stabby-looking resting face - I have to make a deliberate effort to move around. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimR Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 Contrary to how I probably appear here, I real life, I'm a very laid back person, easy to get along with and probably too keen to please people. Which means I end up getting involved in projects to help people out. I should probably be more up front and leave earlier when I see that a project doesn't have legs. But I don't want to be that guy. Have been 'stuck' in a couple of bands that were going nowhere for longer than I should have been. Including a 'rehearsal' band who were only playing in the studio for fun. Conversely, in hindsight, I also stood in for a few gigs for an originals band while they found a new bass player, when I should have actually agreed to join them. But wasn't the right time of my life. So maybe my failure is a need to have a big turnover of new tunes and gigs, with a 'thats good enough let's get out and play', and an aversion to spending hours picking over minutiae in rehearsal rooms. Although I think 2 of the bands I'm in are pretty much that. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 3 minutes ago, TimR said: ... an aversion to spending hours picking over minutiae ... What have you done with the real TimR..? Is he OK..? Is this a ransom job..? ... 2 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staggering on Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 3 hours ago, Paul S said: Me too! I have this constant internal conflict of being a perfectionist but not being especially good. This leads to my being hypercritical about my own performance/abilities but, unfortunately, it can sneak into my expectations of band mates, too. And not just playing but commitment to rehearsals etc. I can be a Royal pain in the backside, sometimes. This is one of the things I love about my current band, though - we high the high spots most of the time and are getting better. You have described me perfectly, especially the part about being a "Royal pain in the backside", thank you.😊 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz196 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, TimR said:, Conversely, in hindsight, I also stood in for a few gigs for an originals band while they found a new bass player, when I should have actually agreed to join them. But wasn't the right time of my life. Nadir, Tim? Edited September 1, 2023 by Lozz196 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimR Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 57 minutes ago, Lozz196 said: Nadir, Tim? Yes. Too much else going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz196 Posted September 1, 2023 Share Posted September 1, 2023 3 minutes ago, TimR said: Yes. Too much else going on. Shame when things like that happen, I remember the gigs you did with them, were really good 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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