Machines Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 I was in a band for all of 1 audition and 1 rehearsal recently. Apparently not having 40 songs learnt within 2 weeks, when there was no gig for 2 months "didn't show commitment". Ok bye then ! I left the band before that as we learnt a load of new songs for a gig, then the guitarist decided last minute to cut them from the setlist as we "weren't ready". It was a charity gig, we weren't being paid and thus it was a great opportunity to test them out (even though we were ready, he just chickened out). Recent dealings with joinmyband have left me feeling extremely anti-band, I cannot seem to find people that have realistic expectations from people. It seems to be all weekend warriors who want to gig 8 days a week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhysP Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) [quote name='cheddatom' timestamp='1460447363' post='3025699'] Obviously I read a lot of this stuff on here, so I know it's true, but I've been in about 8 bands so far and only one had a fall out, and that was very civil. I'm currently in 4 bands and we all get on really well. The only childishness is some of the humour. Sorry you've been so unlucky! [/quote] I'm more than happy to accept that a lot of it is down to the way I am. I've never been comfortable with people in general, and working as part of a team, even if doing something I really enjoy, is incredibly stressful for me. Being diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum last year at the age of 50 has finally helped to explain to me why this is. It's unfortunate, but as much as I enjoy playing music doing it with other people is a nightmare for me. Edited April 12, 2016 by RhysP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460460296' post='3025874'] I'm more than happy to accept that a lot of it is down to the way I am. I've never been comfortable with people in general, and working as part of a team, even if doing something I really enjoy, is incredibly stressful for me. Being diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum last year at the age of 50 has finally helped to explain to me why this is. It's unfortunate, but as much as I enjoy playing music doing it with other people is a nightmare for me. [/quote] So why don't you just stay away from bands? Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='Machines' timestamp='1460458686' post='3025851'] I was in a band for all of 1 audition and 1 rehearsal recently. Apparently not having 40 songs learnt within 2 weeks, when there was no gig for 2 months "didn't show commitment". Ok bye then ! I left the band before that as we learnt a load of new songs for a gig, then the guitarist decided last minute to cut them from the setlist as we "weren't ready". It was a charity gig, we weren't being paid and thus it was a great opportunity to test them out (even though we were ready, he just chickened out). Recent dealings with joinmyband have left me feeling extremely anti-band, I cannot seem to find people that have realistic expectations from people. It seems to be all weekend warriors who want to gig 8 days a week. [/quote] I can't speak for the UK scene, but in the States, most opportunities advertised to the public are from wanabees and start ups that will never see their first gig. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhysP Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) [quote name='blue' timestamp='1460464770' post='3025918'] So why don't you just stay away from bands? Blue [/quote] I do, and have done for many years. See post #18, where I quite clearly state "[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band".[/font][/color] Edited April 12, 2016 by RhysP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 f***ing friends ,thanks for that karl :-( lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RAY AGAINST THE MACHINE Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 Kevvo.. Show us the set list Pleeze... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hairychris Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='blue' timestamp='1460464973' post='3025920'] I can't speak for the UK scene, but in the States, most opportunities advertised to the public are from wanabees and start ups that will never see their first gig. Blue [/quote] It's definitely a quandary. The most reliable sources are via the grapevine, but if you're new to an area or newly starting out gigging then options may be limited. A bit chicken and egg, really! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 I'll put set list on after Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) Heres the set list Friends,the Rembrandts Cliff richard ,cant remember what it is Lionel richie,all night long Beat it Dance the night away Erasure respect I could go on but its hurting my teeth now Dont get me wrong some of it was ok in our set list ,but the crap was out weighing the good good songs:-( ps more crap songs too follow.. Edited April 12, 2016 by kevvo66 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460465317' post='3025924'] I do, and have done for many years. See post #18, where I quite clearly state "[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band".[/font][/color] [/quote] Good luck, bands are definitely not for everyone. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460478820' post='3026081'] Heres the set list Friends,the Rembrandts Cliff richard ,cant remember what it is Lionel richie,all night long Beat it Dance the night away Erasure respect I could go on but its hurting my teeth now Dont get me wrong some of it was ok in our set list ,but the crap was out weighing the good good songs:-( ps more crap songs too follow.. [/quote] Those are not crap songs. Those are songs you don't like. Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) But now found out my drummers ready for walking hes a good mate of mine so maybe he will be in my new line up at some point Edited April 12, 2016 by kevvo66 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zbd1960 Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 I perform with a number of much bigger groups. When younger I put up with a lot of dross. At 56 I don't want to waste my time on clueless organisations that suck the pleasure out of what we do for fun and enjoyment. I quit a 25 piece last night that I've been with for 7 months as they want new members then don't look after them. They're too cliquey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RhysP Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460478820' post='3026081'] Heres the set list Friends,the Rembrandts Cliff richard ,cant remember what it is Lionel richie,all night long Beat it Dance the night away Erasure respect I could go on but its hurting my teeth now Dont get me wrong some of it was ok in our set list ,but the crap was out weighing the good good songs:-( ps more crap songs too follow.. [/quote] "Dance The Night Away" by The Mavericks is the song I hate most in all the cosmos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) That friends song just come into my head I'll be there for you No you won't so f*** off Sorry about the language:-/ Edited April 12, 2016 by kevvo66 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tauzero Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460484884' post='3026158'] That friends song just come into my head I'll be there for you No you won't so f*** off Sorry about the language:-/ [/quote] Brilliant song. I love playing it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karlfer Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 Stop baiting Kev you lot. He's a lovely bloke. With very scary eyes. And too many FRIENDS Sorry Kev, good luck with the drummer, that's the 2 important bits sorted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JapanAxe Posted April 12, 2016 Share Posted April 12, 2016 [quote name='blue' timestamp='1460479093' post='3026084'] Those are not crap songs. Those are songs you don't like. Blue [/quote] The man makes a valid point! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevvo66 Posted April 12, 2016 Author Share Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) Thanks karl ,Right you lot I'm off too play some old punk bass lines so there;-) Edited April 12, 2016 by kevvo66 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Telebass Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 [quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460404838' post='3025493'] All the most petty, childish behaviour I've encountered in my adult life has been while I've been in bands, which is yet another reason why I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band. [/quote] Although I still gig, this is the truth. Not every band is that bad, but the worst examples I have seen are ALL musicians. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolverinebass Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 Both bands I've been in recently have been on hiatus for more than a year each. With one, I've done some recording which has fizzled out due to other commitments from the other members. The other band was stupid enough to put up an ad for bass player wanted (for some really silly reasons) and think I might not notice it. So, surprisingly enough I just said that I wasn't really into it anymore and come get your stuff from my studio before I put it on Ebay. The problem I have is that not many folk want to do progressive material. I'll probably take the rest of the year off from bands and just concentrate on my own stuff and record online. I certainly couldn't be more morose about the whole band thing than I am at the moment so I doubt I'll miss it as much as I love playing live. Sod the aggravation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charic Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 [quote name='RhysP' timestamp='1460465317' post='3025924'] I do, and have done for many years. See post #18, where I quite clearly state "[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]I stopped gigging years ago & I'll never be in another band".[/font][/color] [/quote] I'm very similar to yourself but I've not given up yet. I've found the reward when you find the right people more than worth the heartache of when you don't. The problem is it's a long and arduous project Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gary mac Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 [quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460400550' post='3025449'] All night long by Lionel Richie pushed me over the edge Lionel Richie for f***s sake , [/quote] Maybe they were thinking back to the response it received at Glasto Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RAY AGAINST THE MACHINE Posted April 13, 2016 Share Posted April 13, 2016 [quote name='kevvo66' timestamp='1460478820' post='3026081'] Heres the set list Friends,the Rembrandts Cliff richard ,cant remember what it is Lionel richie,all night long Beat it Dance the night away Erasure respect I could go on but its hurting my teeth now Dont get me wrong some of it was ok in our set list ,but the crap was out weighing the good good songs:-( ps more crap songs too follow.. [/quote] Thanks kev;) I think you have great patience . I don't think I would've lasted long in that band . If you played brown eyed girl , I wouldn't have done more than a band rehearsal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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