[quote name='hiram.k.hackenbacker' timestamp='1320607630' post='1428945']
The other band members [b]will[/b] think a lot better of you if you have at least one decent attempt (and I mean a sobering one on one) at ironing the problem out with the individual involved. If and when you do walk away, at least you will be able to look the others in the eyes and honestly say "Sorry guys, I tried". Unfortunately there are musicians out there, not necessarily very good ones, that only know how to be negative regarding others abilities. Some of them can be brought around, some can't. Have a crack at finding out which one you've got before you jack it all in mate.
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plus the one.
the 'competitive' band member sounds like a right tool tbh - i think i'd have a hard time being around someone like that, never mind being in a band with them.
i'd say talk to the band, tell them why you're unhappy and tell them you can't work with the negative vibes.
if it can't be resolved then say your goodbyes and remember to turn down before you unplug.