Who my dad really was.

[sascha peakman]

UPDATE: I have spoken to the person who had made the initial thread and he has agreed to take it down to prevent further comments.

 

This post was more aimed for the crowd of people who “knew” Lorne and was feeling sorry for him because of his own downfall. He has been dead since 2020, so hearing people still praising him in 2025 was the straw that broke the camels back for me.
 

Sorry that this is not really bass related, but this has to be said.

 

Just writing this to make things clear about me and Lorne Peakman with the basses / guitars that I was selling. I was hoping to not have to open old wounds, but with the alarming number of comments I have seen about me and my family, I had to get things out.

 

First and foremost, I am his BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER! Not his mistress that he crawled back to after he was kicked out of our family home.

 

He was also not the man you all thought he is on the internet. He was an abusive father, who had abused myself and my three brothers. Emotionally and physically. He had 5 kids that we know of, one of them from a previous relationship before he was with my mother which he was no longer allowed to contact. We had to have the police come around for months to keep him away from us and to have him removed. I was the one who had called the police on him to be removed after he had hit one of my brothers and spat on my baby brother who was in my mother’s arms.

 

Amongst all this, he had been trying to break into our home, threatened to k!ll himself over text to me at 14 years old and kept manipulating one of my brothers to give him information by bribing him with money and video games. He was also the person who would not get a job and would claim benefits for all his life. It was to the extent that he was wanting to keep my severely autistic brother to stay in nappies for an extra £5 a month. That being said, he had never once paid any form of child support, which my mother never asked for from him before rumours are spread about that, the only money we saw from him was on our birthdays and Christmas before he realised his manipulation tactics would not work.

 

He would use my mother’s money, that she had worked hard for, to fund for his luxuries before he was thrown out of the family home. That includes all the BCRs, PlayStation consoles and alcohol. My mother and him was together for 17 years before all this happened, she tried to help him but he never accepted it.

 

Towards the end of his life, he had stopped trying to contact us and manipulate us into bringing him back home and was focusing on his then girlfriend, Sascha Bennett. They had been doing drugs and drinking for what I can only assume was a few years until one night, Sascha Bennett had left his flat, leaving him to die alone. The coroner’s depicted his death to be drugs and alcohol.

 

We had previously tried to sell the basses and guitars he had left behind due to taking up space within our home and they were the ones he had left behind. He had already claimed all of his belongings in the first few years, so whatever was left was stuff he didn’t want.

 

For everyone who don’t want to read all that, 

 

TLDR; He was an abusive alcoholic that broken down his own marriage and family by not helping himself and who had used my mother’s money to buy all the basses / guitars in his collection, which we then sold off to clear space as we don’t want anything of his left here.

 

I have now said everything about what type of person he was now please stop spreading misinformation about me and my family.

Edited 15 hours ago by sascha peakman
Update

[Supernaut]

I am so sorry to hear that. Thank you so much for setting the record straight. The internet is a cruel and mistrusting place. Your story is the only one that counts. 

[prowla]

FYI I posted a comment in the offending thread; hopefully the errors are genuine and will be addressed.

[Beedster]

22 minutes ago, sascha peakman said:

Sorry that this is not really bass related, but this has to be said.

 

Just writing this to make things clear about me and Lorne Peakman with the basses / guitars that I was selling. I was hoping to not have to open old wounds, but with the alarming number of comments I have seen about me and my family, I had to get things out.

 

First and foremost, I am his BIOLOGICAL DAUGHTER! Not his mistress that he crawled back to after he was kicked out of our family home.

 

He was also not the man you all thought he is on the internet. He was an abusive father, who had abused myself and my three brothers. Emotionally and physically. He had 5 kids that we know of, one of them from a previous relationship before he was with my mother which he was no longer allowed to contact. We had to have the police come around for months to keep him away from us and to have him removed. I was the one who had called the police on him to be removed after he had hit one of my brothers and spat on my baby brother who was in my mother’s arms.

 

Amongst all this, he had been trying to break into our home, threatened to k!ll himself over text to me at 14 years old and kept manipulating one of my brothers to give him information by bribing him with money and video games. He was also the person who would not get a job and would claim benefits for all his life. It was to the extent that he was wanting to keep my severely autistic brother to stay in nappies for an extra £5 a month. That being said, he had never once paid any form of child support, which my mother never asked for from him before rumours are spread about that, the only money we saw from him was on our birthdays and Christmas before he realised his manipulation tactics would not work.

 

He would use my mother’s money, that she had worked hard for, to fund for his luxuries before he was thrown out of the family home. That includes all the BCRs, PlayStation consoles and alcohol. My mother and him was together for 17 years before all this happened, she tried to help him but he never accepted it.

 

Towards the end of his life, he had stopped trying to contact us and manipulate us into bringing him back home and was focusing on his then girlfriend, Sascha Bennett. They had been doing drugs and drinking for what I can only assume was a few years until one night, Sascha Bennett had left his flat, leaving him to die alone. The coroner’s depicted his death to be drugs and alcohol.

 

We had previously tried to sell the basses and guitars he had left behind due to taking up space within our home and they were the ones he had left behind. He had already claimed all of his belongings in the first few years, so whatever was left was stuff he didn’t want.

 

For everyone who don’t want to read all that, 

 

TLDR; He was an abusive alcoholic that broken down own his marriage and family by not helping himself and who had used my mother’s money to buy all the basses / guitars in his collection, which we then sold off to clear space as we don’t want anything of his left here.

 

I have now said everything about what type of person he was now please stop spreading misinformation about me and my family.

Sorry to hear this. The moderators will I’m sure be able to check/remove any offensive content @ped

[Hellzero]

I've seen your dad's face @sascha peakman and all I can say is that he doesn't look that sympathetic at all, not the kind of person I would trust and I never made a single mistake with this feeling: It's all in the (here, frightening) look and attitude, you would be amazed all it can tell (In my profession, I received lessons on how to get to know people in less than a minute by coldly analyzing the data available).

 

You were right to say all you said about who he really was and some people owe you some apologies.

 

The problem is that we often only see the tip of the iceberg and, here, the other part is really scary.

 

You have all my sympathy and I wish you all the best.

[madshadows]

Thank you for this, all the best to you and your family  

 

John 😎 

[Geek99]

I didn’t see this original contentious thread, though I do see some parallels with my own past. Well done @sascha peakman for saying it. 

Edited 18 hours ago by Geek99

[Geek99]

So where is this thread ? Did it get deleted ? There are several that mention “lorne”

[Hellzero]

14 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

So where is this thread ? Did it get deleted ? There are several that mention “lorne”

 

 

[sascha peakman]

2 minutes ago, Hellzero said:

 

 

That’s the thread I’m referring to, but it was mainly the people commenting about my dad on there that was rubbing me the wrong way, especially @impathological. 

 

[sascha peakman]

23 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

So where is this thread ? Did it get deleted ? There are several that mention “lorne”

 

[Geek99]

9 minutes ago, Hellzero said:

 

 

I see, perhaps @sascha peakman your name was confused innocently with Sascha Bennett. I get why you were upset though, not taking away any of your righteous anger about Lorne 

 

[Geek99]

4 minutes ago, sascha peakman said:

That’s the thread I’m referring to, but it was mainly the people commenting about my dad on there that was rubbing me the wrong way, especially @impathological. 

 

I get that totally. People used to think my father was great too. Small village back then is not dissimilar to Facebook situation now 

[sascha peakman]

3 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

I see, perhaps @sascha peakman your name was confused innocently with Sascha Bennett. I get why you were upset though, not taking away any of your righteous anger about Lorne 

 

It wasn’t just that comment that annoyed me, but it was as you said mainly years of anger of Lorne being painted as a saint when he really wasn’t. I have spoken to the person who made the thread and I have asked him to take them down. Thank you for your support 😊

[Geek99]

6 minutes ago, sascha peakman said:

It wasn’t just that comment that annoyed me, but it was as you said mainly years of anger of Lorne being painted as a saint when he really wasn’t. I have spoken to the person who made the thread and I have asked him to take them down. Thank you for your support 😊

You’re welcome, I’ve been there. People knew what my father was like, but he was so likely to resort to the law of libel if they said anything he didn’t like that they kept quiet. He hospitalised a girlfriend such that her kids didn’t recognise her

 

i think that my point is that there is some therapy in knowing you weren’t the only one it happened to (so less “why me?”) 

Edited 15 hours ago by Geek99

[Supernaut]

@Geek99 not sure why you're trying to take over this thread. 

[Burns-bass]

3 minutes ago, Supernaut said:

@Geek99 not sure why you're trying to take over this thread. 

I think they’re just sharing the view that sometimes the public view of a person isn’t the same as their private behaviour. 

 

The internet isn’t like a car park. There’s enough digital space here for everyone.

[Bassassin]

44 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

I see, perhaps @sascha peakman your name was confused innocently with Sascha Bennett. I get why you were upset though, not taking away any of your righteous anger about Lorne 

 

 

I agree, that's almost certainly the case - it's an unusual spelling of a fairly uncommon name, easy to see how confusion could arise.

[sascha peakman]

1 minute ago, Burns-bass said:

I think they’re just sharing the view that sometimes the public view of a person isn’t the same as their private behaviour. 

 

The internet isn’t like a car park. There’s enough digital space here for everyone.

I understood that they meant well and was only sharing that they too had the same if not similar experience that I had growing up

[sascha peakman]

1 minute ago, Bassassin said:

 

I agree, that's almost certainly the case - it's an unusual spelling of a fairly uncommon name, easy to see how confusion could arise.

I could too, if it wasn’t for the fact that they claimed to have known my dad for 10+ years.

[Geek99]

1 hour ago, Supernaut said:

@Geek99 not sure why you're trying to take over this thread. 

Absolutely I am not doing that or even trying to do it. This is sascha’s thread

Edited 13 hours ago by Geek99

[binky_bass]

56 minutes ago, Geek99 said:

Absolutely I am not doing that or even trying to do it. This is sascha’s thread

I don't think anyone else though you were trying to take over. Knowing you're not alone in a situation can definitely be therapeutic. 

[prowla]

4 hours ago, sascha peakman said:

I could too, if it wasn’t for the fact that they claimed to have known my dad for 10+ years.

In fairness, he did say it was internet-only "I'm in the US so I never met Lorne, knew him about 10yrs online, we were Facebook friends,", so I guess it's entirely possible that he only got the "manipulated" (ref. your Christmas presents comment) view.

I'm just trying to rationalise, not contradict; I'm really hoping that @impathological will drop in and close the loop.

Edited 10 hours ago by prowla

[Joe Nation]

"Knowing" someone (online or in person) is not the same as really knowing them, nor is it the same as knowing about their personal life and relationships etc - mixing up two people with an uncommon name, both connected to the subject but without knowing the fine details, is not unreasonable (although quite unfortunate in this case). My 2 cents - anyone who dates someone with their own daughter's name is almost certainly a creep.

 

And FWIW, my dad was an alcoholic, sober for the last 17 years of his life - which he worked really hard on every single day, and I am incredibly proud and grateful to him for that. He was mostly really good to us, and his first two wives and 4 other kids (yeah alcoholics tend to do that). But even I didn't really know all of him - I found out last year that when he would bring my half-siblings home from school, he would stop at more than one pub on the way for a pint. They would sit in the car, he would get more and more drunk and keep driving. This was rural Ireland in the 70s, but still. There was a side of him I never saw, thankfully. Just sayin', you can never really know someone all the way to the core.

[christhammer666]

this place is turning into reddit