morsefull Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I'm bald, fat , 52, currently in a good covers band, and I've been made aware that I can be quite capable of moving in a somewhat dated, "Dad dancing" style on stage............. Think 80's Whilst trying to humor my rather younger band mates in their 20's and 30's. I've resorted to trying desperately not to look to "uncool" by remaining rather static. Now I'm looking "Bored" or uninvolved" Any tips on how to remain cool looking in ones' latter years ? I'm sure It's hard for them, playing in a band with someone old enough to be their dad. I know it's hard for me playing with a group of guys 20+ years younger than me. And yes, I'm being quite serious here, I really need some help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lowdowner Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Smile and play the bass well - if they can't appreciate that, find a proper band? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Wear one or more of the following: a hat a skull ring sunglasses a ZZ Top beard : D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spoombung Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Sorry, but over 50's men are fundamentally uncool. I speak through bitter experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lettsguitars Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Just be confident. That is all anyone needs. Move with the music not the tempo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='Spoombung' timestamp='1358976594' post='1948100'] Sorry, but over 50's men are fundamentally uncool. I speak through bitter experience. [/quote] Keith Richards Steve Harris Bill Nighy Antonio Banderas Sean Connery I could go on! Hurrah for cool over 50's men Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morsefull Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='seashell' timestamp='1358976266' post='1948097'] Wear one or more of the following: a hat a skull ring sunglasses a ZZ Top beard : D [/quote] I've tried the hat and sunglasses. Made me feel a pratt ............. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lettsguitars Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='morsefull' timestamp='1358977035' post='1948105'] I've tried the hat and sunglasses. Made me feel a pratt ............. [/quote]There's part of your problem right there! They're not called sunglasses! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='morsefull' timestamp='1358977035' post='1948105'] I've tried the hat and sunglasses. Made me feel a pratt ............. [/quote] It'll just have to be the beard then! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='lettsguitars' timestamp='1358977144' post='1948106'] There's part of your problem right there! They're not called sunglasses! [/quote] Oh all right, shades then. Is that what young people in their 40s are calling them these days? :Dt BTW I am actually older than our drummer's mother, but do I care? No I rather like it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I'll be 63 this year, 'our' band comprises my sons (32 and 27...) playing guitar and bass, with a couple of other buddies on vox and 2nd guitar (40 and 30...). How to project 'cool'..? Easy; I'm the drummer... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dingus Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Men over 50 can be very cool - look at Brian Eno , David Bowie , Vidal Sassoon , Jeremy Clarkson ... well look at the first three of those anyway . It's all about how you present yourself . The first mistake people make is to try and look and/or act younger than they really are . Looking good when your older is not about fooling everybody your still 21 years old , it's about making the best of what you are . If you are up for trying to lose a bit of weight then that will always help and will probably take years off how you look and feel , but otherwise choosing the right outfit - something simple and flattering - and presenting yourself in the right way . Think of yourself as an elder statesman rather than as being too old to rock and roll . If the dad dancing is a problem then adopt a more static and serious stage persona . Just be stylish and understated in the way you dress and be yourself . And play the bass - that makes you cool all on its' own . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morsefull Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 "And play the bass - that makes you cool all on its' own" I've got to agree with that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thunderbird13 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 wear a suit hat and practice making stage shapes and if that doesnt work then go for full KISS makeup Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seashell Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Suits always look good on the larger gentleman. And can be quite rock n roll. Especially if worn with sungl....er, shades. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Admiral Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Here you go! : [url="http://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/style/style-shrink/expert-answer-/gq-style-shrink-how-to-dress-well-after-50"]http://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/style/style-shrink/expert-answer-/gq-style-shrink-how-to-dress-well-after-50[/url] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earbrass Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 (edited) Big no to sunglasses (sorry, "shades") indoors - it always looks like someone trying hard to be cool. Trying to look cool is surest way to look uncool. Just relax and stop worrying about how you look. There, see, now you're cool . Edited January 23, 2013 by Earbrass Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BassTractor Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='seashell' timestamp='1358977421' post='1948109'] BTW I am actually older than our drummer's mother, but do I care? No I rather like it. [/quote] I don't get that. I'm older than your drummer's mother too, but it leaves me cold. Morsefull, I think you first and foremost need to be old and know it - without any form of excuse or embarrassment. Your strength and character will translate. best, bert Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Len_derby Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 One name to add to the lists above. Tony Levin. Surely one of the coolest bass players on the planet, well over fifty and head like a billiard ball. There's some good advice been given already and I would echo the losing weight tip. It doesn't look good at any age, and sheding some will guard against back trouble (the musician's curse). It worked for me. Keep on rockin! Len (54) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigRedX Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='Spoombung' timestamp='1358976594' post='1948100'] Sorry, but over 50's men are fundamentally uncool. I speak through bitter experience. [/quote] Speak for yourself... ;-D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigRedX Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='seashell' timestamp='1358976266' post='1948097'] Wear one or more of the following: a hat a skull ring sunglasses a ZZ Top beard : D [/quote] Oh dear... I have two of those. Am I trying too hard. Seriously though, age is no barrier if you and the rest of your band have the right attitude. My band (the others are all in their 20s) respect me for my experience, my song writing skills, the fact that I'm not afraid to rock like a bastard. Also looking weird helps... [IMG]http://i114.photobucket.com/albums/n249/BigRedX/IMG_3636.jpg[/IMG] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dingus Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='BigRedX' timestamp='1358978606' post='1948154'] Oh dear... I have two of those. Am I trying too hard. Seriously though, age is no barrier if you and the rest of your band have the right attitude. My band (the others are all in their 20s) respect me for my experience, my song writing skills, the fact that I'm not afraid to rock like a bastard. Also looking weird helps... [/quote] And you've looked after your figure, too . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gjones Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Buy an Italian silk suit wear shades and look miserable. Everybody will think you're a mafiosi. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BassPimp66 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Fluo spandex trousers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big_Stu Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 [quote name='morsefull' timestamp='1358975636' post='1948086'] I'm bald, fat , 52, [/quote] A curly wig & a silver corset & who'd know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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