I'm not seeing how this compromise and negotiation works
You have your gear you want to keep it, but the partner doesn't. So you compromise and negotiate, and...?
If it results in gear going, then where's the compromise and negotiation?
Reminds me of a bloke I knew, scruffy long haired type, played in a band. He met a girl, they started seeing each other, and then moved in together. First thing to go was the long hair, in favour of a short back and no chance, coz girlfriend didn't like long hair. Next was he started to smarten up a bit, not necessarily a bad thing, but done because girlfriend didn't like the clothes he used to wear. Finally he quit the band, and sold his gear, because girlfriend didn't want him in a band. A few months later she dumped him because... "[i]you're not the same person I fell for[/i]" !!!!! :wacko:
and no, it wasn't me