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Although in my ramblings, I’m mistaken i was referring to Wall-E not Up 😂 Those who have been at the receiving end of a narcissist relationship (work/personal or otherwise) will know these tactics all too well and, once you’ve experienced it, for the worse, it will certainly incite a mental health trigger response. The trick after the fact is to use it to your advantage as the internal BS meter goes Chernobyl when you smell it.

That's what I love about my Orange Terror, it's easy to find the 'golden zone' for different basses.

Thanks, especially for this^^, which brings sense to the use of the term. Do all that use the term know and understand from where it derives..?

Musical integrity!

Hi jezza, Could you open up some of the wood around the broken bit with a small screwdriver enough to maybe get some long nose pliers on it to unscrew

It seems I have succumbed to the laziness that A.I models afford the casual user, where asking it to reply for me is preferable over typing on a very small screen whilst I doom scroll my morning away. I’m feeling a lot like those characters in the film UP, strapped to mobility chairs, staring at screens. Anywho, I asked to explain what Gaslighting is, where the phrase came from and some examples of gaslighting in the real world. All of which I could have typed out myself rather than explaining my laziness… Quote: ## Meaning of Gaslighting Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person seeks to make another doubt their own perceptions, memories, or sanity. The gaslighter achieves this by persistently denying facts, twisting reality, or dismissing the victim’s feelings and experiences, often leading the victim to become confused, anxious, and dependent on the abuser’s version of reality[1][14][16]. ## Origins of the Term The term "gaslighting" originates from the 1938 British play *Gas Light* by Patrick Hamilton, later adapted into films in 1940 (UK) and 1944 (US)[1][2][12]. In these stories, a husband manipulates his wife by secretly dimming the gas lights in their home and then denying any change when she notices, insisting she is imagining things. His goal is to make her doubt her sanity so he can control her and steal from her[1][2][14]. The term entered psychological and popular discourse decades later, especially from the mid-2010s onward[1][12]. ## Practical Examples of Gaslighting Gaslighting can occur in various contexts, including romantic relationships, workplaces, friendships, and even politics. Here are some real-world examples: **1. In Romantic Relationships** - A partner cheats but insists, “You’re imagining things. I’d never do that,” when confronted with evidence[5][13][15]. - Repeatedly telling someone, “You’re too sensitive” or “You’re overreacting,” to invalidate their feelings[5][11][15]. - Denying abusive events occurred: “That never happened. You’re making it up”[13][15]. **2. At Work** - A manager claims not to have received a report that was delivered, causing the employee to question their memory[6][13]. - A colleague borrows items and denies it, making you wonder if you misplaced them[6]. - Downplaying your achievements or concerns, e.g., “You’re just stressed. Not everyone can handle new responsibilities,” to undermine confidence[6][13]. **3. In Friendships** - A friend moves your belongings and then insists you’re forgetful or careless when you notice[9][15]. - They deny saying hurtful things, insisting, “You must have misunderstood me,” even when you recall the conversation clearly[15]. **4. In Politics** - Politicians denying well-documented events or shifting blame for failures, causing the public to question verified facts[7]. - Spreading misinformation and attacking critics’ credibility to erode public trust in objective reality[7]. **5. Common Tactics** - Withholding information or pretending not to understand the reason for a conversation to avoid accountability[11]. - Projecting their own negative behaviors onto the victim, such as accusing them of lying or cheating when the gaslighter is actually the one doing so[15]. - Isolating victims from friends or family to increase dependence on the gaslighter’s version of reality[14].

Not a bass, but the longest journey I’ve taken is to collect a bass speaker cabinet that @soulbrother generously donated for a teenager jam-night I was hosting. It was a twisty, spectacular drive into the beautiful heart of Wales. I also have a cautionary tale about the trip. Having looked up the specification of the cab I carefully measured the inside of my hatchback Hyundai. It was going to fit, just. However, I didn’t check whether any casters had been fitted to the bottom of the cab. They had……🤭. Got it home Ok.

I was tempted too, but it was not available at the time and I bought the Joyo MA-10B, which lacks the bluetooth but looks a bit prettier I really like it and use it regularly. It's a great little box to have around for anywhere practice. I don't expect the jamster to be much different.

bought some strings from Dave super quick delivery great to deal with

In The Summertime - Mungo Jerry

absolutely I have an outdoor, on the seafront gig in Deal next week I'll be taking all of them for this one, it should sound epic I've had the K12 s and Ksubs over ten years now and they are still so good. I reckon they'll see me through to the end (at least I hope they do)

Seaside Shuffle - Terry Dactyl and the Dinosaurs

I've read attempts at explanations, with examples, so it must be me, but I still don't really understand what 'gaslighting' is. One of the (many...) words and phrases in modern parlance that I look up, but fail to assimilate (others would be, for example 'woke', 'ghosting' or 'cheugy'; there are others...). English seems to be becoming a foreign language; maybe I should change my reading material.

Seaside Rendezvous - Queen