Your 2 I can empathise with. Due to the nature of the 'day job' I've occasionally found myself falling into the role of organiser and fixer. I've generally found that quickly runs into difficulties with personal frustration and disappointment (the phrase 'herding cats' comes to mind). In my current 'adventure' I've intentionally taken a more back seat role and I feel much happier for it, the band relationships and so forth are the best I've experienced. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect to be looked after, but just looking after my own travel, equipment, level of preparedness is a breath of fresh air to me. Fortunately the other band members are just as diligent so the whole dynamic works.