@Al Krow As life ain't perfect - it will always be a compromise I guess.
I've played on stages so big that my 2x10 looks silly - and others where my QSCk10 has looked like someone put a house on it to block it off.
Similarly, I've played gigs where the FOH system has been so good that I've been glad my monitor can't be heard out front, and others where we could have given each member of the audience a can and string to get a better feel for it..
Perhaps it's indicative of the fact my band seems to do more festivals than anything else - the stages tend to be bigger and the sound engineer/FOH a lot better organised. I played Y Not festival last year - in the bar tent during the downpours that washed it out (remember that?) It was heaving - you couldn't have fitted another fly in there - the FOH system was really really good - so good in fact that the house bass amp didn't get turned up - and it was an expensivo toob amp as well.
From your list, I see no reason at all for you not to use 12's. Either 2 1x12's or 1 2x12..?