Quitting before you’ve started…

[AndyTravis]

Oh my…weird few months.

 

As my old band Fiasco Jam was causing me issues - detailed elsewhere…

 

I agreed to help a mates band out - they’re well known in Manchester and have a really decent following…

 

They’ve been on hiatus for a while and their old bass player moved back home to Italy so they were stuck.

 

I wanted an “out” from FJ so I wrote 4 songs for them and agreed to join.

 

Fiasco Jam folded and the singer and Drummer asked me to carry on.

 

”this is great, I can do both” I thought…

 

Things have changed - work gave me a promotion, which is good…but is chewing time.

 

The build is ongoing and costing…and stressful.

 

My dad’s been in hospital, mum not doing great…

 

mother in law seems to be in rapid decline.

 

I have just “quit” the new band - no big show, but I’ve prioritised myself; I’ve spent a day learning their setlist for a gig next month.

 

reassuringly 3 of the tunes I wrote are on the list - but I must say the old stuff isn’t really my cup of tea.

 

I’ve sent the message, the rehearsal will be awkward tomorrow but they’ve got 5 weeks if they’re not ok with me helping out to find someone else.

 

That’s fine by me if they do.

 

I’ve offered to transcribe and video any lines I’ve done to help and record the EP for them if they want me to.

 

But I think I feel reassured that it’s the right shout.

Edited 8 hours ago by AndyTravis

[ezbass]

29 minutes ago, AndyTravis said:

My dad’s been in hospital, mum not doing great…

 

mother in law seems to be in rapid decline.

Sorry to hear the above, Andy. Never rains but it pours. 

[AndyTravis]

4 minutes ago, ezbass said:

Sorry to hear the above, Andy. Never rains but it pours. 

Yeah - do you know, everything will work out as it’s meant to.

 

starting to realise we have zero control over much.

[LukeFRC]

Two years into a house building project that’s nearing the end of- it’s bloody stressful for everyone - you gotta take care of yourself 

[Beedster]

There's always time for other bands later on mate, you're going through some far more important stuff at the moment and you need to give yourself the space and capacity to deal with that stuff from a full hand so to speak. Playing bass should always reduce stress, not add to it.

 

Band or no band, you will of course need to ensure there's a bass within your reach at all times however. Good luck mate 👍

[AndyTravis]

3 minutes ago, Beedster said:

There's always time for other bands later on mate, you're going through some far more important stuff at the moment and you need to give yourself the space and capacity to deal with that stuff from a full hand so to speak. Playing bass should always reduce stress, not add to it.

 

Band or no band, you will of course need to ensure there's a bass within your reach at all times however. Good luck mate 👍

Oh mate - I’m still playing, I’m just choosing what to play.

 

The band in question have responded that I’m not actually allowed to quit…🫣

[Steve Browning]

35 minutes ago, Beedster said:

There's always time for other bands later on mate, you're going through some far more important stuff at the moment and you need to give yourself the space and capacity to deal with that stuff from a full hand so to speak. Playing bass should always reduce stress, not add to it.

 

Band or no band, you will of course need to ensure there's a bass within your reach at all times however. Good luck mate 👍

Absolutely this!!

[ezbass]

34 minutes ago, AndyTravis said:

Oh mate - I’m still playing, I’m just choosing what to play.

As it should be.