Either you want to be in a band and do gigs, or you don't. Plenty of people like the idea of being in a band but just aren't prepared to put the time, effort and commitment in, for whatever stupid bloody reasons they come up with - and I've heard plenty.
In a band where everyone is up for it, gigs, and communications about them, are never a problem.
Having said that, where a drummer is concerned the situation is slightly different as it's so bloody hard to get a decent one.