Holy crap! I'd do worse than you - i'd be going insane at anyone and everyone who would listen. A refund wouldnt be enough for a cockup of that magnitude IMO.
I agree with the statements regarding getting a custom instrument. For me, theres a bit of excitement about having a bass that no one else owns.
Can't wait for mine to arrive!
If its all built by a decent luthier then you'll get a brilliant bass to your exact specs (even if those specs are based on a HH 'ray! - Mines is based on a 70s jazz...and a stingray) - Just remember that S+T have done a terrible job - which i would spread like a plague to everyone.
Sucks that you've had to go through all this. Hope you get everything sorted one way or the other