I don’t want to be too critical, but unless you join an established band you’ll need to put in a lot of work. The best bands are a cohesive unit. It takes time, investment and a lot of frustration.
To provide some context, this year I’ve done 30 gigs with one band and only now are we starting to sound really good.
The bands in your list will have spent 30 odd years playing the same songs. No wonder they sound amazing.