AndyTravis Posted June 12, 2018 Author Share Posted June 12, 2018 But the idea of doing a gig is tempting. Not for a bit, got a busy summer and can’t do a disjointed start. Might offer my services to a mate who’s recording an EP, bit of fretless stuff under an acoustic duo. No stress. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 So Iris is still doing well, had an offer to join a jazz band this week but turned it down as they gig every weekend and I just don’t feel like committing to that level of gigging. She got her blue badge the other day and picked her a funky ladybird cover - got to keep it stylish. 1st full review on Thursday afternoon! 7 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmccombe7 Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 (edited) Good decision on the gigging thing. You need to enjoy kids at their early years. Wee stunner there sir. You can always get another band together no probs/ Out of curiosity whats the blue badge thing ? Dave Edited August 1, 2018 by dmccombe7 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 7 minutes ago, dmccombe7 said: Good decision on the gigging thing. You need to enjoy kids at their early years. Wee stunner there sir. You can always get another band together no probs/ Out of curiosity whats the blue badge thing ? Dave Because of her various conditions she’s entitled to a disabled persons parking permit as we attend so many appointments and because of her Shunt, she requires quick access to treatment in cases of emergency. If she’s in the car or we’re running errands for her, we can use a disabled parking space. this is just a holder, but didn’t want the standard dull blue one... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rogerstodge Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 (edited) Sod the gigs mate, spend the time with the little cracker. i came back from a 3 week tour of Japan when my daughter was a year old, I picked her up and she screamed and cried, not nice. Edited August 1, 2018 by rogerstodge 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 1 hour ago, rogerstodge said: Sod the gigs mate, spend the time with the little cracker. i came back from a 3 week tour of Japan when my daughter was a year old, I picked her up and she screamed and cried, not nice. Yeah, my eldest (Ella) used to act odd if I was away gigging for prolonged periods. When I separated from her Mum I got access at weekends so quit music altogether. Once I was more sorted, I got back playing. (she escaped pretty much unscathed - and is excelling at school these days) 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EBS_freak Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 6 minutes ago, AndyTravis said: Yeah, my eldest (Ella) used to act odd if I was away gigging for prolonged periods. When I separated from her Mum I got access at weekends so quit music altogether. Once I was more sorted, I got back playing. (she escaped pretty much unscathed - and is excelling at school these days) Can’t get better than all round excellence! top work all! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Steve Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 (edited) yeah, while it's not affected me, I do know mate's in bands that have been affected by members having restricted access to their kids following a separation. Tends to depend on how flexible everybody(including the band and the ex) can be: In one (reasonably well known) band the person affected was the lead singer, who was the BL and key to them continuing. Everybody was happy that they simply don't arrange rehearsals for the days that he has the kids, and as it's regular it's not an issue. he also seems to have enough give and take with his ex that doing short tours is fine. In another (less well known but a very busy tribute act) band the problem was the lead guitarist who expected the band not to play and to turn down gigs if he couldn't make it. Oh, and he didn't like playing outside of town. Driven by not having a great relationship with his ex who was completely inflexible, but when he spat his dummy out that he was offended that they were even considering getting a dep in for gigs that he couldn't make, that was the end of things. So it can work, but if it doesn't you're probably best off being the one that stands aside Edited August 1, 2018 by Monkey Steve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 6 minutes ago, Monkey Steve said: yeah, while it's not affected me, I do know mate's in bands that have been affected by members having restricted access to their kids following a separation. Tends to depend on how flexible everybody(including the band and the ex) can be: In one (reasonably well known) band the person affected was the lead singer, who was the BL and key to them continuing. Everybody was happy that they simply don't arrange rehearsals for the days that he has the kids, and as it's regular it's not an issue. he also seems to have enough give and take with his ex that doing short tours is fine. In another (less well known but a very busy tribute act) band the problem was the lead guitarist who expected the band not to play and to turn down gigs if he couldn't make it. Oh, and he didn't like playing outside of town. Driven by not having a great relationship with his ex who was completely inflexible, but when he spat his dummy out that he was offended that they were even considering getting a dep in for gigs that he couldn't make, that was the end of things. So it can work, but if it doesn't you're probably best off being the one that stands aside Yeah, I’m pretty certain i’ll start something soon - i’ll continue my recording project, lots of half finished jobs. will do some open mics with a mate and keep the fingers working. i don’t want to be the let down, so I’ll be happy to dip in and out of projects as I go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Steve Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 2 minutes ago, AndyTravis said: Yeah, I’m pretty certain i’ll start something soon - i’ll continue my recording project, lots of half finished jobs. will do some open mics with a mate and keep the fingers working. i don’t want to be the let down, so I’ll be happy to dip in and out of projects as I go. well, the other thing to add is that you're not alone here. I had a chat with the drummer from a former band of mine a couple of months ago, in a very similar situation as you with a fairly new baby, and he just wants to keep his hand in - isn't expecting to be out every weekend like we used to be, just wants to find a band where everybody is happy to get together once every few weeks, maybe play the odd gig here or there 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrunoBass Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 8 hours ago, AndyTravis said: Yeah, my eldest (Ella) used to act odd if I was away gigging for prolonged periods. When I separated from her Mum I got access at weekends so quit music altogether. Once I was more sorted, I got back playing. (she escaped pretty much unscathed - and is excelling at school these days) That, almost word for word, is my story too. The only difference being she is all grown up now and gigging more than me! You can always go back to gigging but you can’t go back to your kids childhood. Wise choice mate, best of luck to you and your family. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazzbass Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 18 hours ago, AndyTravis said: So Iris is still doing well, had an offer to join a jazz band this week WOW ! Can she even play an instrument yet? So glad it's going well, all the best mate 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 So, we’ve started will a full time physio and Occupational therapist with Iris - we had some exercises for her to do - but she has loads now to strengthen her neck, core and arms/legs. Her new chair arrived - more supportive than the regular bouncer chairs, but still comfortable enough if she drops off. A new one though was Balloons - she’s mad for them, and her arms and legs are going all over the show, she’s bopping them and squealing with glee - 10 fold increase in movement. So now when I do the weekly shop, I pick up a new balloon...£2 a week to encourage movements. Have filmed and sent to the Physio - she’s over the moon with the difference. Also got a new adapted play mat coming on Thursday - £300 but like anything to do with special needs it’s probably 100% more expensive than it would be if it was a “toy”. Not complaining at all - the blue chair is on loan until she grows out of it and they’re £280 to buy. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
josie Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 (edited) 20 minutes ago, AndyTravis said: Also got a new adapted play mat coming on Thursday - £300 but like anything to do with special needs it’s probably 100% more expensive than it would be if it was a “toy”. Too B***dy true. Any product targeted at any kind of disability is sold at exploitative prices. Dawn simulator alarm clocks were originally sold just for Seasonal Affective Disorder - I paid almost £200 for one, 15 years ago, knowing I was being ripped off, because it was essential to getting through the winter. Then someone realised that anyone who ever needs to get up in the dark (like, anyone who lives in the north of England) would be glad of one, and they go for as little as £30 now. <\rant> She's gorgeous. Thank you for the pics! x Edited August 20, 2018 by josie minor 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dad3353 Posted August 21, 2018 Share Posted August 21, 2018 The System won't let me 'like' as many times as is deserved, so have a balloon bouquet' instead... 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rogerstodge Posted August 21, 2018 Share Posted August 21, 2018 I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again, she’s a little beauty. XX 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyTravis Posted September 27, 2018 Author Share Posted September 27, 2018 https://www.justgiving.com/Eve-Cardiff?utm_source=Sharethis&utm_medium=fundraisingpage&utm_content=Eve-Cardiff&utm_campaign=pfp-email&utm_term=Y2kDNQ83k. a mate is doing a sponsored row for the unit who performed Iris’ operations, I had a few PM’s at the time offering donations to a nominated charity. This is what I’m putting an event on for her birthday in April 😉 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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