[quote name='thepurpleblob' post='524636' date='Jun 26 2009, 09:54 AM']BUT.... you know what the best thing I ever did was? I joined a pub band - a just starting out with only three songs pub band luckily - at age forty. I was bloody terrified. I kid you not. It still doesn't take much to get me into a complete flap but three bands and hundreds of gigs later I'm an altogether better person. It's brilliant therapy. Post in gumtree or somesuch for some like minded musicians who might like to learn a few songs and maybe play some small gigs, possibly in front of a few friends to start and work up. Think about it![/quote]
+1 for this.
It's that very first step thats the real hurdle if u have a chronic lack of confidence.
I have done thousands of gigs - pubs, functions, TV, stadiums even, luckily water off a ducks back (well not quite )
But stick me in a room at a party or a meeting and i am terrified and just want to run away - only me bass gives me real confidence and if u can get over the initial jump u'll be fine
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