@Art
it reads fine and I have been there, bought the t-shirt, worn the t-shirt, washed the t-shirt (repeat) ... and then finally thrown away that t-shirt.
Very few people are lucky enough to be a natural.I'm not, its in my family, but I didn't get that gene.
So, there's two schools of thought:
1. play songs, lots of songs and it will all work out magically
2. Learn lots of theory until you've pretty much killed the pleasure out of the whole thing and it will all work out magically
Lots of popcorn has been eaten watching the factions all over the internet arguing all about this. Which way is better etc.
I would suggest that there is nothing wrong with knowing scales and intervals. It all helps understand what is going on, and why things work. And why things don't. And if you're lucky you will realise that some things that shouldn't work do sound good anyway.
So, I advise a middle route: stop with the frenetic theory study and take some time to learn a few songs, by ear, using your intervals. Try and move them up a key and down, work out new fingerings in other places, not for nothing is anywhere above fret five or so known as the dusty end. Then use your theory knowledge to work out what scales are in use and why they work over those chords. Then you will start to build up the aural tool box that you seek. I think that in trying to see the patterns, you're missing the point. Its about finding the notes on the fretboard, not learning a pattern. I bought an iphone app that tests me on notes and their locations.
Looking for patterns is a crutch, and I leant on it for too long.