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I'd say much of your problem is here. Mids is the last thing kicks need. A difficult room plus people that don't know what they're doing. Good musicians/sound techs know how to create space in the mix. A kilowatt of bass amplification is more than plenty for any stage but can't win from incompetence. You say most of your pedals were running hot, that would mud up the sound even more. Roll off some low bass to make room for the kick and go light on the distortion, a little crunch goes a long way.

My 2p: Dr strings Lo Rider, or High Beams if you want extra extra zingy.

Expensive is when the cost exceeds the value. It can cost a lot of money without feeling expensive, but that point is personal.

That looks awesome and great fun to play!

Have a search for "Orgel vreten"

Went to see GNOME last Friday. That. Was. Awesome.

No T-rex tooth nut?

A FX loop with octave and a little overdrive?

Aptly called "the Widow"

I picked the Ikea ALEFJÄLL. High chairs don't really add anything for me, I just wanted good lower back support. The armrests are just long enough to support my elbows and short enough to not get in the way when playing bass.

Put a little more zest in the run up as to launch the bass, freeing it from the hip position with a single powerful thrust, after which it returns to regular resting position. This is called the One Pump Chump.

These are my favourite straps ever

Crossover blend? Just plug the rat in line, set the dirt anywhere from mild to chainsaw and then use the filter to dial from klang to sludge. I like this video because he really shows how the distortion and filter play together: For me, in band setting, the range of usability lives really when I set the dist between 9 and 11 o clock and the filter from noon to bear full. If you want to put this pedal on a side chain you can, but there's really very little point.

RAT

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