'S'what comes of being 'picky', though, isn't it..? It's fine when the choices and opportunities are there, but becomes a bit 'painted into a corner' when the wheels stop turning. If there's only a few, limited situations that float your boat, get the work in in practising and learning, and wait for the golden opportunity to knock on your door, or start hustling to make it happen. It's not the easy route, though, so be prepared for either lowering your expectations (although that doesn't sound likely, given your stance...), or a struggle to meet all criteria. Go for the recording and take it from there, and use the occasion to strike up new acquaintances, open up the 'networking'. I hope it all works out, and BC is always here for ranting, kudos, jokes and (sometimes stale...) advice.
Other than that : welcome back.