band members are plotting to remove one of us... suggestions sought

[Uncle Rodney]

4 hours ago, bassbloke said:

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Now, it's perfectly possible that B has already sensed their number is up and thinks you're the person that has been tasked with doing the firing and is either in denial or making like difficult.

 

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Good comment, and why to some extent I'm not going to be persistant in trying to make contact with Mr B. I currently have a comfortable halfway point, tried to make contact, no response so I'm covered (according to my conscience). The band has already booked an audition date for Mr C.

[Uncle Rodney]

Update: it gets bonkers.

So we auditioned C (I will call Chris - incoming band member) - A (the instigator - I'll call Allen) - so Allen approves of Chris new band member to come into the band. OK so now we have to tell B ( I will call Bob - the person to be released).

 

The BL (guy who set the band up and I've always been suspicious of) - is the guy who found Bob and brought him into the band to replace another band member who left, which is the primary role of a BL, find members. So far so good right?

 

BL asks, "so who is going to tell Bob we don't need him? .. oh I suppose it's me then" - I thought that was a weak.

I replied with "usually he who hires fires" - resonable enough. He then replies to me, "that's not right I didn't hire him, I did the band a favour" I gave that a 😂 - as if to say, yeh and I did the band a favour by being in it... and so did the singer etc.

 

Next the BL phones me, in a rage saying "it's disrespectfull of me to put a laughing face..." - I thought, this is nonsene the guy is in a rage over nothing, there's no point in talking so I pressed the "close call" button  - He then calls again, seeing it was him, I press the dismiss button again, this happened three more times. Clearly this BL was in a rage, so avoid.

 

This BL has been giving me negative vibes for some time, so I wonder if he was wanting a "reason" to leave his own band. Sure enough 5 mins later he announces he's leaving the band. I told the other band members his behaviour, they were astonished. Our band had a brass player who also I could see wasn't really up to the job. Upon hearing the BL had quit he said he will quit too.

 

OK take stock. In my view we have now got rid of the two weakest players in the band. We the remaining band members have a chat and decide to continue  this is the best decision.

 

I've seen that kind of insane behaviour before, I'm no expert but traces of schizophrenia?? - delusion, grandure. Always, their high expectation of others and the situation (band progress, performamance) is well above their own abilites, but they don't see it.

I recall someone in BassChat saying - the biggest commotion is caused by the least able.

 

 

Edited 1 hour ago by Uncle Rodney

[dmccombe7]

14 minutes ago, Uncle Rodney said:

Update: it gets bonkers.

So we auditioned C (I will call Chris - incoming band member) - A (the instigator - I'll call Allen) - so Allen approves of Chris new band member to come into the band. OK so now we have to tell B ( I will call Bob - the person to be released).

 

The BL (guy who set the band up and I've always been suspicious of) - is the guy who found Bob and brought him into the band to replace another band member who left, which is the primary role of a BL, find members. So far so good right?

 

BL asks, so who is going to tell Bob we don't need him? That gets followed with "oh I suppose it's me then" I thought that was a weak.

I reply "usually he who hires fires" - resonable enough. He then replies, "that's not right I didn't hire him, I did the band a favour" I gave that a 😂 - as if to say, yeh and I did the band a favour by being in it... and so did the singer etc.

 

Next the BL phones me, in a rage saying "it's disrespectfull of me to put a laughing face..." - I thought, this is nonsene the guy in a rage over nothing, there's no point in talking so I pressed the "close call" button  - He then calls again, seeing it was him, I press the dismiss button again, this happened three more times. Clearly this BL was in a rage, so avoid.

 

This BL has been giving me negative vibes for some time, so I wonder if he was wanting a "reason" to leave his own band. Sure enough 5 mins later he announces he's leaving the band. I told the other band members his behaviour, were astonished. Our band had a brass player who also I could see wasn't really up to the job. Upon hearing the BL had quit he said he will quit too.

 

OK take stock. In my view we have now got rid of the two weakest players in the band. We the remianing band members have a chat and decide to continue  this is the best decision.

 

I've seen that kind of insane behaviour before, I'm no expert but traces of schizophrenia?? - delusion, grandure. Always, their high expectation of others and the situation (band progress, performamance) is well above their own abilites, but they don't see it.

 

 

If i've followed this correctly, and its a lot to take in at my old age, it sounds like an overall positive result for the band 👍

Dave

[chris_b]

53 minutes ago, Uncle Rodney said:

I recall someone in BassChat saying - the biggest commotion is caused by the least able.

 

My experience too. . . . wish I'd thought of that saying!!

[martthebass]

I think it ended in the best way. Pick up and carry on, no more time wasted on histrionics. My motto band wise has always been ‘if it ain’t fun, why do it?’.

[Lozz196]

Said BL sounds as mad as cheese.