Forget about using a 10 - it will struggle to go loud enough on its own. A good 12 should do the job. If you'd like to roll your own, your lowest cost option for neo is the Celestion BN12-300X, a 300W driver. Google for suppliers - there are quite a few in the UK. It works OK in a 35 litre cab, although it sounds better (goes lower) in 50 litres. The former made out of poplar ply will get you under your 10kg target weight. Don't know about 50 litres, but that might also come in at under 10kg - you'll need to do the maths.
Alternatively, you could build a 35-litre cab out of 15mm birch ply which would probably work out at around 12kg. I wouldn't personally go lower than 15mm ply.
If you really want 500W power handling, look at an Eminence Kappalite 12LF (a bit deficient in the upper frequencies though), or even better, a driver from 18Sound or BMS. But be prepared to pay for the privilege - worth it, but probably not for a first build.