I think Dan's point is that how one feels about a situation is no substitute for what one actually does about a situation. Emotions can help or hinder actions, but they cannot make them happen as if by magic. This applies to most aspects of life, but certainly to situations where levels of performance feel like crucial assessments of your worth as a human being -- which, for the most part, they are not. In any case, good luck with any future jams, and try to remember that even Tom Verlaine could have an off night (I saw it and it was excruciating).