Classic BC answer is to just quit.
An actual helpful answer would be to have an honest and open discussion about it all. Bands should not be talking behind others backs.
Everyone who has met him says he's a decent bloke.
Everyone who hasn't can't stand him.
Someone once told me "Have you ever met a hater doing better than you?". Think that rings pretty true in this case.
Touched a nerve have I? I'm a regular gig goer and always attend local unsigned acts. Bare in mind, I will never attend one of your gigs because you're only one gig from superstardom, right? 😁