Mighty be worth publishing this as a book......
And for my 10 penneth........
Speak to the reception organisor beforehand to agree what is required, especially if you are hired through an agency. The function band I play in is a Soul Band and although we do "doff our cap" to some recent numbers, most is Stax/Atlantic/Tamla....and that is what the agency has sold and normally 2x45's.
However, the vocalist, (who plays Sax as well), has an alter ego as a solo artist, singing to backing tracks. As his Solo set contains everything from Frank Sinatra, Van Morrison to Detroit Spinners etc, we usually find thay a set from him and 2 from us works really well. Most receptions have an age group ranging from 6months to grandparents in their 80's. By doing our "Swing to Soul" show, everyone seems to be happy. They can digest the food during the swing set as well.
Might be worth looking out for some "advert" music. A while back Bunny Siglers "Let the good Times Roll" was featured in an ad, so we put it in the set and it went down a bomb.
Current favourite is Al Wilson's "The Snake" from the Lambrini advert. As it also has a Dance, all the teenager's jump straight on the floor and try and get their parents learning it.
Another nice touch is find out the B&G's names and take a congrats card for them. The personal touch does help, particularly leave a CD with the B&G if it was a good night, and this generally feeds back to the agents and more work comes your way.