You have a lot of good input and mine will mirror most. Ignore the “Ibanez is only for rock” I play a Ric 4003 for church and have played a Thunderbird when I wanted to, never let anyone tell what your bass can play. My first bass was a used Fender P and it is still in my collection. Try several out, and, my advice, buy the one that you don’t want to put down. Fender Play is a great tool, so is SBL (start with their free stuff and their YouTube content, deep rabbit hole you’ll never regret. Do looks matter? Yes, because the way it looks, the more you are drawn to it, the more you’ll play. Enjoy the journey!