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[quote name='thunderbird13' post='632264' date='Oct 21 2009, 02:05 PM']Interesting one this as I casually asked Mrs Thunderbird about this last night what she thought I expected her to trot out the usual stuff about compromise and balancing individual time and together time .But instead she said it was pathetic that someone would risk a relationship just for the sake of a hobby. I didnt persue it further but I've a feeling that there is a timebomb ticking ![/quote] Well, yeah. I guess the whole thing revolves on the individual's worldview, doesn't it? If one views life as a series of phases, birth-childhood-youth-adulthood-marriage-kids-empty nest-retirement-grave than of course it makes no sense to risk a relationship, as it's required to get you to marriage and then kids. You'd never get to retirement and grave then! If, on the contrary, one sees life as one precious shot we get at being who we are and become and a series of choices from today to the loss of our autonomy from loss of mental or physical faculties, it becomes far less clear that the identity 'I'm the husband of so-and-so, and husbands put the happiness of wives ahead of their own, therefore no bass' should prevail over 'I'm a bassist, therefore I bass.' Of course, it could also be posited that a partner who doesn't think you should enjoy meaningful activities on your free time* may not be ideal for you if you enjoy playing and performing music. *edit: free time of course being free time AFTER you've taken care of your mutually agreed obligations. Obviously, spending time with the kids and your partner is an obligation, and one you should ideally enjoy. For full-time musos, hobbies in their free time would probably not include rehearsing with a band.

[quote name='GreeneKing' post='632158' date='Oct 21 2009, 12:22 PM']I like that Ville [/quote] Thank you Peter! I aim to please. I'll be here all week, try the veal. Seriously though: I envy those whose eye never ever wanders. The heart? It stays right where it is, cpt. Pecker, Simon is silenced. But sometimes you work with someone or are in a bank with someone where there's certain chemistry and then it can be a real drain on your energy. Unless you've got an open relationship or something. Of course, in this case apparently the specific 'you' wouldn't feel that way at all! The thrill of the hunt... Guess it varies, but for me knowing the psychomechanics at work is a great relief. There's nothing mystical crap like 'our love is fading/this is fate/whatever' going on, it's just your normal (as in healthy) psychological response. It doesn't need empowering with mysticism stemming from ignorance.

we traded basses - no complaints whatsoever, nice guy and packed the bass well, too!

[quote name='Lfalex v1.1' post='629007' date='Oct 17 2009, 10:09 PM']Is it me or do many odd signatures not flow as well as even ones? "Money" is a bit of an exception.[/quote] Solsbury Hill! It grooves like mad, esp. the Secret World Live DVD version. edited to add: written and sung by the failed and sacked Genesis vocalist, naturally.

To read your post in a bona fide way, I couldn't answer, because I've always been a musician. (Debuted in Szentendre at age 12! I wasn't getting any back then! Girls at 12 aren't all they're cracked up to be, would be much easier to get casual sex now. From women my age, that is.) In my circumstance, what I DID answer was: 'yes dear.' You know what I did then? You wanna know? Well iamma gonna tell you anyways. I went on to drink like I was 22 again and tried to score with women like I was 22 again. (With comparable success. I've never, not once, scored with a woman from a bar. Usually because I'm always totally focken' pissd, other times because I'm sh*t at disguising my real interests when I've had a pint or three. I DID once invite a woman for late-night tea from this gig I was playing...) So I got back to gigging right quick. Since 'your friend' is hypothetically getting an ultimatum from 'his wife' - do you have kids? I complete disagreement with The Admiral's wife, there's PLENTY of fish in the sea. Research does NOT suggest a very limited number of possible partners. Research DOES suggest a vast number of possible partners with whom a working relationship can be had, but in reality, you only meet a limited number of people to with whom there'll be mutual attraction while the prevailing conditions are favourable.

Not being eloquent, I'll just put it short and sweet: no dicking around, everything went smooth as can be. Has excellent taste, too.

Bought a pedal off him - a really nice guy. No problems whatsoever.