. . but in my case the decision has already been made
I've been gigging in a band for a number of years off and on.
I'm one of the four original members, though only myself and the singer/guitarist/songwriter/bandleader are left, and we've so far had 24 people (including the two of us) who have gigged with the band at one time or another !
The lineup can include up to three backing singers, two horn players, percussion etc. so it's not quite as bad as it looks. .
Anyway, recently we've taken on a new drummer, and whilst he is a perfectly competent player, he:
1 ) hits everything too hard - the snare sound was making me feel a little queasy the other night, and I have to resort to earplugs or lose my hearing, and:
b ) never stops hitting things, even if the singer calls for quiet, with maybe some bass drum, he's hitting wood blocks and chimes and god knows what else (which really gets on my nerves) and as a consequence there no longer seems any groove to work with.
I pointed this out to the singer, but he "really likes what he's doing" and as he does all the decision making, I'm doing two more gigs and then I'm gone - I'm going to do some acoustic guitar playing for a year or two and enjoy some quite music-making for a change