I was in a band some time ago, where the vocalist / guitarist was the leader so to speak . I was the new addition and we all got along well. We rehearsed once a week most of the time at the band leaders house.Very mellow bunch , but now and again the other guitarist would pull him up on things ..
We played our first gig in the band leaders local pub . Lots of obscure or very old blues songs . I managed to get a few friends along to see us .
During the set , one or two of the punters were shouting one or two things which I didn’t really hear or care about . Then the band leader talked in a condescending way . Not too hostile or anything like that , but to me it raised instant alarm bells . To me it seemed like he was taking things too seriously, a wooden approach and couldn’t take a joke .
This was a friendly gig in the bands local.
So , in the interval my friends ( who were the ones giving me a bit of banter ) told me they thought the frontman was a bit of a tw@.
With that , I waited a few days and quit, and concentrated fullly on the other band I was in . Lesson no.1 ; Don’t talk down to the punters!