[quote name='cetera' post='46270' date='Aug 16 2007, 10:57 AM']I've noticed a lot of posts with phrases such as "My wife told me I have to sell it", "She said I can't have this one till I sell that one", "I'm not allowed to buy it" etc etc
Now, I don't mean to start a problem thread..... or to attack anyone..... and I don't mean to cause offence.....but I'm genuinely interested in how this can be? Does everyone just 'do as they're told'? Do you let your partner control your finances or is it 'anything for a quiet life'....?!?
Speaking personally, I am married..... but I don't answer to anyone but myself. Never have/never will. After making sure all bills etc are paid my earnings (plus gig money) are mine and mine alone to spend how I want to.... and the same applies to my lady wife.
Again, I mean NO offence with this post!
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Speaking as a married man (one I would consider not TOO under the thumb), I guess it's all about compromise.
I have taken over one whole room with my basses, amps and pedals. Personally, I can live with this, but my wife seems to feel that if we have people over, they'll have nowhere to stay (despite the fact we have a sofa bed and 2 other bedrooms). Reading between the lines, I think she means there is less space for HER things....
I currently have 4 basses, 1 guitar and a Tenor Sax (not a huge amount by any means) but am constantly asked the question "why do you need more than 1 bass? You can only play 1 at a time..." My response is "well, you can't wear more than 1 pair of shoes at a time...". Unfortunately, I'm reminded that whereas shoes would cost (say) £50, my basses cost on average £600+ each. She doesn't begrudge me anything, but I think it's a natural female reaction to "Boys and their Toys".
I'm glad she's in my life (my Guardian Angel) and without her, I'd probably be living in a skip albeit with the most wonderful collection of basses.....