Lascivious Goth

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Update: I emailed band leader yesterday to say "what's going on?", his reply was "I'm as surprised as you guys, being last to get there and seeing things carrying on as normal it seemed better to just go with the flow". Fair enough I suppose. So now we're in the position of needing to reiterate our position to the guitarist...

[quote name='Skinnyman' timestamp='1409823702' post='2543608'] Wow. I complain about my guitarse but he's a sweetheart compared to yours... It's very possible that bandleader and guitarist had a chat and both came away with very different recollections. So bandleader thinks he was diplomatic (it's not you, it's us. We're holding you back, you're undermining their confidence and they aren't as talented as you, need to make room to let other people grow, etc). And the guitarist just heard 'blah, blah, you're brilliant but cut the others some slack'. Question is whether you can live with him now he's turned over a new leaf or whether you still want him out. In which case, there's a very good thread on how to can someone on this very forum! But I'd assume incompetence or incomprehension rather than some Machiavellian plot, lies, deceit and intrigue. [/quote] Thanks! To be honest communication has never been a strong point in this band, so I suspect you're right with your incompetence/incomprehension summary. As a bit more background, guitarist has a long studio recording history, so everything has to be right now, done in one take, right let's move on. Compare to others in the band (not me so much) who don't have much free time in the week to work on material, so rehearsal night is their "learning" time as well as "rehearsal" time. Which is the "how to can someone" thread by the way?

I've got a similar situation in my current band. There's 6 of us, and one of the two guitarists has been like described here: it's never good enough, we need to change the arrangement, you're not playing it right, play it like this, change your technique to this, you should listen to bassist X, I don't like any of these songs everyone has suggested to add to the set, etc etc. This would be punctuated by long absences from rehearsals for health and family reasons, fair enough to be honest, but don't come back unannounced to find things have changed in your absence. Frustrating, and it really holds back the band's progress. Then we have a forced "pub rehearsal" one week as our usual rehearsal location is unexpectedly unavailable. We have a pint and a chat, everyone except the above guitarist is there. One of the agenda items that crops up is what we do with the current line-up. We agree after not much deliberation that we can proceed as a 5-piece, maybe get in another player, guitarist is still part of the gang but only for guest appearances at the occasional gig. That was 3 or 4 weeks ago, we've had one 5-piece rehearsal since, and a gig I couldn't play but a dep sat in for me, no problem. At that rehearsal, band leader says he's spoken to the guitarist, it's all sorted and he's fine with it. Then, in the run-up his week's rehearsal, guitarist sends text to at least me and keys player saying "are we on for rehearsal this week as usual". I reply "as far as I know, I've not heard any different". Reply from him during the day of rehearsal "see you there". He turns up, and me and keys player wonder what's going on. Awkward. Band leader is last to arrive so there's no chance to sound him out. We've got a gig soon that guitarist is fully rehearsing for and expecting to play. He was curiously well-behaved, and I got a slightly out of character "well played" text on my way home. So one of two things has happened: either the bandleader/guitarist chat hasn't happened, or something else has happened in the couple of weeks between pub chat and rehearsals which the band hasn't been told about. Either way (unless something else has happened), it's awkward and I get the feeling we've been lied to somewhere. Sorry for lengthy rant, wanted to unload and see if there any opinions forthcoming.