Thanks for all the fantastic advice. What I've decided to do first is try this friend who is a bass player( as rightly pointed out not a base [ball] player) and see if he will let him try his collection of guitars and try and see if we can find the style of bass he likes, also do the same at a shop, then look for a good one on this site following your recommendations!!
Now next on my list is listening to my daughter (classical guitar) and two friends , voice and flute, play Stairway to Heaven at the school concert. 14 year olds have no fear just wish they would practice a bit more.
Thanks again for your time.