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Just how important is buffet access at wedding/party/function gigs?!?


mingsta

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To me, it's everything. More important than the money, the job or the music. 

But on a serious note, I've yet to play that type of gig where the hosts haven't invited us to mingle and tuck in to some grub in between sets. It's a nice surprise and not something we'd ever take as a given. A stacked plate at half time makes us feel like part of the occasion rather than hookers with musical instruments. It gives us hope in humanity and raises our game to new heights in the second set.

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Many years ago I played for a showband that played quite a few posh black tie events. We used to have to spend most of the night in the kitchen with a plate of curled up sandwiches. The band leader would always be out there schmoozing with the guests, while we had to stay out of sight. 

These days, on the rare occasion we play at an event with a buffet, we tend to get first dibs because we'll be playing straight afterwards 

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8 hours ago, ambient said:

Depends whether they cater for vegans.

Why do vegans and vegetarians feel the need to make themselves sound special? 

I dont like fish or gammon for example so I'd just avoid it at a buffet, it's a buffet so you just take things you like, aren't allergic to or have moral issues eating. If there's nothing you like get a McDonald's on the way home! 

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I used to do a lot of high end function work and the general rule seemed to be - the posher the function, the less likely you were to be allowed anywhere NEAR the buffet.

You were merely 'staff' and got a plate of sandwiches in the kitchen.

Admittedly, I also remember doing some gigs where we were offered first dibs at the buffet - and this was clearly to the great annoyance of some of the guests. I remember a Hooray Henry at one do being particularly offended. He told us in no uncertain terms that we needed to 'learn our place' and threatened to 'sort us out' later.... but I suspect the shampoo may have been doing most of the talking here...

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6 minutes ago, stingrayPete1977 said:

Why do vegans and vegetarians feel the need to make themselves sound special? 

I dont like fish or gammon for example so I'd just avoid it at a buffet, it's a buffet so you just take things you like, aren't allergic to or have moral issues eating. If there's nothing you like get a McDonald's on the way home! 

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Pete, you are absolutely incorrigible.

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10 hours ago, mingsta said:

To me, it's everything. More important than the money, the job or the music. 

But on a serious note, I've yet to play that type of gig where the hosts haven't invited us to mingle and tuck in to some grub in between sets. It's a nice surprise and not something we'd ever take as a given. A stacked plate at half time makes us feel like part of the occasion rather than hookers with musical instruments. It gives us hope in humanity and raises our game to new heights in the second set.

Too right - however I've also payed events where it's a plate of sandwiches in the kitchen - I remember one in a v posh place (Thame) where it was a huge tray piled high with scampi, pizza and chips - but it was a long time ago......you can tell - not only scampi but rumbabas as desert!! 

 

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19 minutes ago, musicbassman said:

I used to do a lot of high end function work and the general rule seemed to be - the posher the function, the less likely you were to be allowed anywhere NEAR the buffet.

Admittedly, I also remember doing some gigs where we were offered first dibs at the buffet - and this was clearly to the great annoyance of some of the guests. I remember a Hooray Henry at one do being particularly offended. He told us in no uncertain terms that we needed to 'learn our place' and threatened to 'sort us out' later.... but I suspect the shampoo may have been doing most of the talking here...

I think if I'd paid out £30 k or whatever the average wedding costs I'd be a bit miffed if the band, cleaners, waitors and heaven forbid - DJ went to the buffet first - even if the organisers said to (and I've played at ones where they have - host's delusions of booking rock stars syndrome I think...) id refrain until after the guests. Just seems wrong to me!! 

 

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It's a dealbreaker IMO. I wouldn't wanna play in any band that's just a background muzak machine in human form. The band would need to be central to the evening's merriment and treated accordingly with a couple of glasses of the old sparkling and an all you can eat buffet with chicken hot wings, spicy spare ribs, those spicy cajun potato wedges,  a few tubs of guacamole and salsa dips plus a basket of homemade tortilla chips. Owt less and it'd be a no-show from me😋

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27 minutes ago, stingrayPete1977 said:

Why do vegans and vegetarians feel the need to make themselves sound special? 

I dont like fish or gammon for example so I'd just avoid it at a buffet, it's a buffet so you just take things you like, aren't allergic to or have moral issues eating. If there's nothing you like get a McDonald's on the way home! 

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Having tried once to find a venue to entertain a nice young lady (also a vegan) it wasn't long before I realised the frustration with so many restaurants offering what appears to be a token item on the menu to tick a box.

Too right about allergies (especially shellfish) - having recently attended an expensive wedding as a guest, where an undefined soup was served as a starter and it turned out not to be a posh light coloured tomato soup but crab soup I was amazed no one keeled over - makes you wonder what some organisers and venues are on, especially with such high profile court cases involving people dying. 

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Buffet is the best bit of the night for me normally 😄. Always wait until everyone else has been though, unless the organisers/venue lay out a selection of trays just for the band (which has happened a few times).

We ate before we started playing once, massive trays of nibbles, scewers, sandwiches etc and massive plate of mixed cakes and tray bakes. That with the three bottles of champagne they gave us made for a very lethargic and bloated first set 😂

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The problem with the vegetarian/vegan option I've found from my own circle of friends is that they are also the most picky and awkward, a bbq with my 'normal' friends can be a few burgers, sausages and buns, ketchup and beers. The veggie version always turns into a feast of half eaten stuff on the kitchen table! 

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4 hours ago, King Tut said:

Don't forget to include 'food poisoning' on your risk assessment. Our keys player was out of the game for a week after sampling some prawns at s function earlier this year!

Maybe that's all part of the plan.....feed the band first, wait 10 mins or so and see if there's any adverse effects, before the main guests tuck in? 

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3 hours ago, King Tut said:

We played for the Freemasons last Saturday. We had a table in the main hall with the guests and the same three course meal. Couldn't have been better looked after. Happy daze.

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Excellent - can be very civilised - I see its a specialised ladies night - last time I played at one of them they had male strippers on the bill as well 🤔😂

Its to be hoped they didn't have ironing boards set up in an adjoining room for their normally allocated ladies' activities...... 😬

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I love tucking into the buffet at functions (provided I'm invited, natch), but you have to watch out. If you overdo it, you can be nodding off in the second set - like those films of the lions of the Serengeti, where they kill and eat something and go to sleep under a tree for two days...

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We have a picky eater in our function band - the drummer is Italian, and has very forthright opinions about English food. Like all picky eaters, we just shrug and ignore him... 🙂

For a wedding gig, we have it in our contract that we are fed and have one drink, and I don't recall any client who has objected. As for the order of buffet access, if the client wants us to go on immediately after the buffet, we politely request we get an early run at the buffet so we're done in time. Again, we've never been refused.

The hardest part is maintaining a facial expression of delight when the fifth client in a row announces proudly "We've got a hog roast!" Oh goody... 😕🙂

 

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