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Once the drummer has started, that's the tempo to play to, whether it's the right one or not. Once it's established, a good drummer won't change. He won't slow it down, nor speed it up. It happens that it's a tad too fast, or the opposite, but once the count has been given, that's the tempo. Drummers also usually have a fair supply of stuff, some pointy, to throw back, so I'd not advise any other tactic than following the leader.
Just sayin'; on the night you'll be fine. We've all been there, and most of us survived.
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I get what you are saying, but the salient point was at the beginning of the sentence, as in 'work on communicating with the drummer before and during songs..'
I have seen many examples of drummers speeding up and rather than laying back slightly, the bassist digs in and the whole thing gets quicker and quicker and quicker.. I'm not suggesting that anyone should start at anything other than the tempo set by the drummer, more to use the bass line (with eye contact, or some form of communication) as an anchor if they start getting a bit carried away.
And as for retaliation from behind the kit, I find giving them a lighter to play with or, for those with a reflection, a small mirror is enough to distract them longer enough for you to get out of harms way