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Doctor J

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  1. I moved out of the city about 16 years ago, about a two hour drive away. I stayed in my band and commuted up every weekend for a four hour practice. Four hours of driving, four hours of playing. Same for gigs, which were usually there, too. I didn't mind, initially, but gradually I got sick of the amount of time I spent on the road, particularly when I could arrive on-time but the two lads who lived close to where we rehearsed would arrive 30 minutes late quite frequently. I started to resent the amount of time I spent in the car, to be honest, but I'm not someone who enjoys spending lots of time travelling. If you love your car like Roger Taylor, maybe you can do it without the stress.

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  2. 7 hours ago, dclaassen said:

    I used to do pickup gigs with a drummer friend who would book jobs, then fill in with whoever was free. 
    Guy comes in with a flying V in one hand and his 12 guage pump shotgun in the other. Leans both against his amp and starts to tune. I carefully introduced myself while asking if the gun was loaded. He gave me the

    look we used to get from ‘Nam veterans and kept tuning his guitar. Good player , but did not utter a word all night…not a relaxing gig…I never accepted another dep request from the drummer…no idea what happened to the guitarist. 


    You don't know because you weren't there, man... intentionally.

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  3. Needed a guitarist for an original metal band. Got an email from a guy who sent us an mp3 of him playing, he sounded amazing, very technically accomplished. We sent him some of our songs to learn and arranged an audition. He showed up, looked the part, so we suggested we play one of the songs. He started playing the intro riff and it was clear he was not the guy who was playing on the mp3 he sent us. Not great, but we all joined in. We got to the verse and he continued playing the intro riff. Bad times. We got to the chorus and all he seemed to know was the intro riff as that's what he kept playing. Then the drums stopped. No bass solo, instead I looked over and the drummer was hunched over. I could see his shoulders shaking, he was having a fit of the giggles and, with great effort and without looking up once, suggested the bass drum skin had split, it hadn't, and that was it. Five minutes and done. We awkwardly suggested we'd reschedule when, clearly, that was never going to happen.

     

    Another odd one was a drummer audition for a different band years before, where the guy showed up with his girlfriend who sat beside him and chain-smoked for the entire duration. Ehhh... no thanks.

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  4. Being in a band is tough, balancing relationships with a bunch of people. If it's causing you more stress than the enjoyment you get out of it then get yourself out of it. 
     

    As for giving up playing, there have been times when I haven't felt like playing but, eventually, I come back to why I wanted to play an instrument in the first place. I love music. I don't need to justify having an instrument by being in a band. Dinking around aimlessly on the couch is perfectly valid, if it brings you some joy pr even a distraction from the things in life which can get on top of us.

     

    Don't let your band fatigue get muddied up with your love of music. If you think you might get any enjoyment at all out of playing then hold off on quitting totally, even if you leave the band. Best wishes whatever you decide to do.

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  5. Have played 5s and 6s but prefer the feel of 4 in my hands. I've a 4 with appropriate strings tuned down to B standard when I need the low stuff and the rest in E. No manifesto or drama, just went with what I preferred the feel of.

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